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So afraid my body will be ugly after I give birth

I am a FTM, currently at 32 weeks pregnant. My anxieties are many, from the act of labour, to being a good mother, to the recovery after birth, to new dynamics between my husband and I, to a more selfish one: will my body be ugly after birth? I have done my research and there are definitely many ways to have your body heal and put back together (somewhat), but many of the changes are irreversible. And while I hear many moms say "they are your battle scars, be proud of them", I don't know if I will ever look at my body and be confident ever again and not everybody will agree. Of course it's a different issue if you have plenty of money and can go have these things fixed, but most of us don't have that luxury. I am just ranting here, sharing a little bit of my anxiety. But please feel free to give your 2 cents if you have advice or feel the same way I do. #FTM #firstbaby #firsttimemom #stretchmark #fatcow #flabby #saggy #Hairloss

I think I’m considered “young” when I became a mom? (I was 24) No money as well so not many things can get fixed. However there really isn’t anything to fix. I gained 18kg during my pregnancy, I’ve never went past 47kg in my entire 20 years of life, imagine how devastated I was when I hit 61kg before I gave birth. I thought I could avoid stretch marks but what’s new? It started appearing at week 38. Nothing changed, except that I put on lots of weight and gained a few stretch marks. I spent 8 months (no dieting, , no exercise, just breastfeeding) to get back to shape (42kg). My stretch marks have lighten and since I’m not a bikini/crop top person, it didn’t affect me much. I forgot which month PP hair loss was at its peak, I was shedding like a husky (I didn’t use any hair loss shampoo or whatsoever since it’s a process I can’t escape), few months after, my hair started growing back on its own. You gave birth to a life, if your husband finds your stretchmark ugly, you probably need to change that dude. I am currently 20 months PP and everything has pretty much went to back to how it was prepregnancy (other than the lighten stretch marks). If I don’t bring my kid, no one will know I have a child cause I don’t look like a mom 😂. Don’t feel negative about your body, you’ve done a great job. Give your body time to heal and go back to how it was. You took 9 months to expand, give it the same time or slightly more to go back. Pamper yourself if you need to. You deserve it! 🫶🏻🙌🏻

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