saying bad things to your baby

MIL just wants to irk you. I'm very hot-headed so my mil never dared anymore after she saw how violently angry I can get as I'm really very jolly but she can't see me happy but after seeing my outburst, she'd rather see me happy, I guess... I think you just tell her nicely that it is unpleasant and if any concerns tell you straight. Don't play these silly games... it is unhealthy. Be sure to keep your husband informed. Convey the msg factually...