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There is absolutely nothing wrong with listening to your gut and your needs. Your mental health and well being are essential, especially when taking care of your baby. Becoming a mum is no mean feat, especially during the first few weeks postpartum - adjusting to new schedules and this new little person in the house takes effort and space. I suggest explaining (just once) what this space means to you and talk things out with your spouse. Let him know you need his support through this. I always believe in teamwork when it comes to things like this. Then explain to your family what you need from them. Let them know that while you understand their excitement, you seek their understanding and empathy. And it’s not that you DONT WANT them to meet baby, you just need a few weeks of space. You could also send them the occasional pictures just to pacify them when you’re keeping the visits at Bay.
Hi there, I would personally like to affirm you for doing a really smart thing - you’re not saying that no one can come visit, you’re just saying, “hang on, we need to get ourselves in order. Give us that space. When the time is right, we’ll let you know. Promise.” It’s a wise choice as many a time, I feel when needed parents are too quick to post their joyous moment on their social media feeds and in come the outpouring of love and concern and not to mention the visits and video calls, parents tend to have less time to care for themselves. They’ve just had a baby - it’s exhausting and it’s a huge event! They need rest and space as it’s a whole new chapter. Having said that, be careful with how you communicate this to your loved ones. It’s understandable how much they want to see the little one.
oh dear why cant they being a bit sensitive on this part. its pandemic situation. i mean i do understand the feeling of being excited with newborn especially when everyone is looking foward to it but still they should understand that as much as it is the mummy needs rest n recovery stage. why not visit when she done with the confinement or at least after the 2nd week of giving birth. 🤒
I think they should try to understand. I have delivered almost a month ago and to be honest, i am not vaccinated yet. Also, only my mil and my hb’s godmum has visited my gal. My dad n siblings/frens have not visited us yet as they wish to only visit when we are ready for visitors..
100% doing the right thing. The first 2-3 weeks are meant for you to heal. Having visitors means you’ll have to entertain when not in the right physical/mental state. Reasonable folks should understand this, moreover this is during covid times!
Pls stay firm as this is your decision. You need all the time to rest & settle down with baby. The bonding time and all the necessary to make baby feel @ home. Visitors can come later when you are better settling down. This is all matters .
My in-laws come over to see my baby every 2-3 days ever since birth. Imagine my anxiety if they were to carry the virus or anything from outside. To them it’s okay cos they grandparents. And ya, what is personal space anyway 🙃
u need your rest. not as though they don’t get 2 c bb in future rite? bb still young & don’t know where visitors went, might carry any virus & spread to u & bb. if bb fall sick, end up it’s mummy who suffer, not the visitors
i feel that they shud respect your decision. especially if u have such a young child..