Is it right to evolve a friendship with the opposite sex into a "close" one when married? To the point of chatting with him/her first thing when you wake you up in the morning and the last thing you do at night when you don't even do it with your spouse? I call that cheating. What do you think?

Hello, I was reading the comments below and there are different opinions. But as said by many, "It should not be like this and should be like this", which actually is an ideal situation. The reality is, relationships never remain in ideal situation forever. There come phases where people face ups and downs, and it is not limited to a husband wife's relationship only. So, if we are dealing with reality then I would say, the situation that you sighted in your question is a LIVE situation. It happens in majority of cases and yes, where people get swayed, the relationships go for a toss, but when you get hold of the situation and realise what is happening, as in what is making you attracted to the other person (is it physical, emotional, friendship, etc) then you can evaluate the situation. Then you know that the bonding that you are looking out of marriage is a mere distraction or a serious thing. And then you can hold yourself back.