Hi im the same as you. Try some foreplay to get our friend there a little wet & lubricant also help. U have to be the one in charge so that you wont hurt yourself even though it will hurt but at least you can gauge how far you can endure. After a few days try again, slowly it will get better. The feeling also changes & i had to adapt & try different positions that i didnt like in the past now its my favourite 😅😏
For me I suggest to have it after you fully recovered. I had mine after 6 months
Use a Lubricant