I understand what you mean :( and it's hard. Mums are the primary caregiver cos we've been there and very involved from the beginning so perhaps that's why partners feel it's okay to step away from time to time and live life pre-kids. I'm glad you're talking to him and sharing with him how you feel because communication is key to making it work for both mum and dad. If you find that he is still not doing what you'd hope, perhaps some mummy friends or relatives could help step in to care for the kids while you head out for some me-time? Playdates also work for me sometimes too, just being able to engage with another adult while having an extra pair of eyes on the kids. 💕