Need Excuse so that doc allows me to have ligation. I am only 23years old but already have 4kids! Thank you!

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I was 29 with 3 kids when I wanted a ligation, and was told to wait till I'm over 30. I've finally done it as a 31st birthday present for myself this year. Even at the hospital, _many_ people kept reminding me that ligation is a permanent procedure. You even get a Cert of Voluntary Sterilisation, LOL. I kept my stance, and explained that I got postnatal depression after 3 kids, therefore I shouldn't have more. If your mental health is at risk, your kids, future or not, will also be at risk.

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6y ago

If you are sure you are done havings kids, health reasons are always a valid reason. Recover well and take care!

I think you can just speak to your doctor about it. Just that you have to be sure that you no longer wants any more children as the procedure is intended to be a permanent one. (you can find out more about the procedure here: http://www.kkh.com.sg/HealthPedia/Pages/BirthControlLaparoscopicBilateralTubalLigation.aspx) It is really your choice and I think if you are sure that having four children is enough, then I think that is reason enough.

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I think this would be better discussed with your partner and then have a moment with yourself to think about it before making your decision, afterall you are still pretty young. If money isn't a factor, I personally wouldn't go with it even after 4 kids but realistically, everything is expensive in Singapore so if money is a factor, then yes, I would (I am 25 years old this year).

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get a social worker or counsellor to write you a letter saying that it's in your interests mental health wise. I did with number 4. No number 5. Good luck mamma bear.

my gynae also dun advise till u are 30+ near 40yo or u r 100% sure u dun want anymore. maybe u wana speak to him/her regrading ur concern. further u are still so young.

Maybe u want to consider birth control such as hormones injections or even IUD?

I believed you can. My OB says 3kids or 30 years old above can have ligation.

6y ago

As did my gynae! Vasectomy is always a first choice because it's less invasive! 😂 Men may feel mentally odd about it, although in reality, it doesn't affect ejaculation/amount/libido.

tjoo gal..I feel u.please stop it rite there before u have 8 kids

Maybe tell the doc you are a prostitute.

6y ago

In my opinion, it is indeed a degrading and unethical profession with no sense of dignity. And what makes you think that the gynae would give in to such reasons? It might backfire on yourself so the best solution is to be truthful and im sure shes able to go through it because she has more than 3 kids. My gynae offers me to do ligation during my cscet since its my third child so honesty is the best policy.