Obsessed MIL!!!

Hi mummies! How should I start… So basically, my mil is very obsessed with my first son. Before he was born she was obsessed already and touching and rubbing my stomach which my husband asked me to! After giving birth, I can see that she treats my son as her son.. and on the first night at home, my son sleeps with her. And the reason why is that, my husband wants the both of us to rest which got me upset and away from my just 2-day child... As months go by, whenever I’m not happy about MY MIL. The husband refuses to listen and care for his mom’s feelings. Until now, my son is 4 months old. I feel like the husband doesn’t support my parenting style and letting MY MIL TAKE IN CHARGE! And mind you, I could not do anything about it even when I talked about it. I feel like my position as a wife is to give birth & let whatever MIL wants to do. I feel that my voice is not supposed to be heard by the husband😞 Thank you for reading my rant. #firstbaby #pleasehelp

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If speaking to your husband does not help, just speak directly to your MIL. Yes she maybe wanting to help/ care, but u have ur style of parenting and she should respect and follow. There’s no wrong for u in dominating on the parenting for ur own child. Ur MIL had a chance to parent and play the mother role to her own son / children, now is ur chance to be mother of ur son’s / child’s. She has zero rights; or rather nobody has any rights to snatch it from u. U were already a mother nurturing ur baby since ur first day of pregnancy painstakingly bringing it to birth.

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2y ago

I totally understand that situation and feeling.