SIL? CUZ? BRO?

Hey mummies..just letting out. Eversince the start of my pregnancy is been stressful fr me. Both my brothers gt married frst and decide to have child after house and everitin, well i totally support them in anw. I am 5mths now and till this day my SIL refuse to talk to me as i gt pregnant after few mths of marriage. I am happy even tho is hard to believe. My brothers cant care abt me cos they dnt wanna hurt their partner which i totally understand. Sometime i feel is becos me being pregant they cant talk to me. None seen my scan and none ask me hows baby and me and even none asking the gender. How can i move away frm this? I dnt wanna think abt it everyday..#advicepls I wanna get out frm this feeling blue. Any tips??

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Hi, don’t have to be bother by them. They are the one that plan to start a family after getting the house. Why they have to be “jealous” or even “unhappy” about it? If they can’t share the joy with you, I believe all your other friends are happy for you. Is not easy to get preg as and when you wish. Take it as a blessing and joyous occasion for you. Have to stay happy as your mood will affect the baby as well. For me, I do have family member stirring s*** during my pregnancy and on happy occasion as well. But my hubby will ask me to ignore them as what matters most is you, your hubby and the baby inside you. My advice is, lesser contact if possible as this will trigger your emotion. For me, I did it this way to avoid being emotional during my pregnancy. Try to watch some drama or find something to do. You can think of what stuffs to get for your baby since there’s sales now. Anything, you can chat with me. My IG: stainlessjo 😉 cheer up

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Although it may sounds hard, but what matters most is you are happy. Sure at times we are affected by these immediate family members and would want them to share our joy, but if can’t ,you be you and enjoy your pregnancy. What they think, do or care has nothing to do with your pregnancy and should not affect your pregnancy. You are the one carrying a new life in you. That’s all it matters and ultimately the main reason for you to rejoice and be happy. I hope you can find inner peace and enjoy your pregnancy. Never let others dull the sparkle and joy of your pregnancy! Have a smooth pregnancy and stay safe. Hugs to you.

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hi there mummy, it's fine. you're doing well. i know it will affect you somehow no matter what since they are your immediate family but you need to think of baby. you can't let it affect your mood too and stress you too much. a happy mummy will leads to a happy baby. so always think of your baby and do your best to ignore those negative feelings and just go through your pregnancy and enjoy them with your partner. Every now and then talk to your hubby and once you let it out, go back to ignoring those unwanted feelings and be happy. Be strong mummy! 💪🏼

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Hii mummies there!! Just leave them alone. Its your pregnancy journey, so just be happy & enjoy it. You no need her permission to get pregnant, right? You no ask her to pay ur gynae expenses or pregnancy thing, right? So, for what care about her. Meantime, she will slowly talk with you again. And for your bro, his decision want to care his wife first than you as a sis. In the end, you are responsible with your own happiness, not others! Just be happy for yourself, your little one & ur life ahead! But all its your choice mums. ☺️

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Don't bother about them! It's your blessing that you got pregnant before them. If your brothers does not want to talk to you or see your ultrasound pics, just be it! Save yourself from negative vibes in the family. As long as your husband is around you, that's all matters. Enjoy and take care of your pregnancy! Remember, your emotions play a part on your pregnancy too. Be stress free and happy so your baby is a happy one!

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dont care them. find a friend.. talk to someone youre comfortable with. someone you trust. like for me i trust a few of my close and best friend more thn “family”. dont stress, find a mommy friend where yall can chat about your pregnancy and check on each other… find a mommy support group so you dont feel lonely and unappreciated okay dear.

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dont beat urself up becos of this! u are doing fine, maybe they would love the blessings too but do not know how to express. stay healthy and happy!

Dun let them affect u negatively! Cheer up and enjoy ur pregnancy!