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I am in the same situation as you. Nung nalaman ko at that time bf ko pa lang sya, it was hard kasi they tried to co parent at first, pero eventually things got sour since the ex wanted more than what he could offer, hindi pa nakamove on. Nasasaktan ako every time he had to visit and meet the child kasi I know that the ex would be there until nagaway na sila ng tuluyan and he is not allowed to even visit the child. Before we got married, I asked him to reconcile and fix his relationship with the kid. Ang goal ko ay before kami mag asawa ayusin na ang dapat ayusin, yung sustento, visiting rights, boundaries from ex, ganyan, etc. I also want him to feel na dahil mahal ko ang asawa ko at tanggap ko kung ano yung nakaraan nya. Kaya gusto ko makatulong. Pero the ex didn’t cooperate so hindi actively involved ang asawa ko sa bata. Ang payo ko sayo, kung asawa mo na sya, kailangan mong tanggapin ng buo ang past nya, at kasama na dun ang bata. Mahirap tanggapin but you have to. The kid has the right to know his/her father at karapatan din nya na mabigyan ng sustento. Tama ka sa part na walang kasalanan ang bata so out sya sa kung anong bitterness or inis mo sa situation. Eventually matatanggap mo din kasi kasama na talaga sya sa buhay nyo. Lagi mo ding tatandaan na kung mahal mo ang asawa mo ng buo kasama lahat pati nakaraan nya. 😀