Feeling a little down

Hi Mommies. I’ve been bottling up my feelings with my in-laws for awhile now. My baby was born 3kg and he’s drinking about 80ml of BM for each feeds, now 3 months old. Doctor said he’s drinking more than enough milk and I’m also oversupplied. But my in-laws has always been telling me to feed FM WITH nestum because he isn’t as chunky as they want him to be. They also asked me if I’ve given my LO plain water. I’ve tried to avoid this for as long as I could. But one day my SIL kinda forced to feed him the plain water and she gave him 2oz, my heart was breaking. She also got me to order FM in front of her because she kept saying my baby is hungry and my freshly pumped BM is not making him full. It makes me wonder if there’s something wrong with my BM that is not sufficient for my perfectly healthy son. I feel like I have no power as a mother and my husband is obviously supporting his family. Sometimes I feel like my husband thinks I’m just being paranoid for no reason and make me feel like I’m crazy for not wanting to give plain water and FM. I’m not seeking for any advices, just thankful for this platform for allowing me to let out my feelings anonymously.

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Hi mama, reading this I feel damn angry for you!! Previously I had a friend mother telling me my bm was useless and my baby should do this should do that Wtf. Firstly, no one should tell any mother, especially mummies giving bm that their milk is useless or not nutritious. We put in so much effort and sacrifice so much sleep and time to provide for our babies and not to let you degrade our milk and us. Secondly, if they want chunky baby, ask them to either have their own baby or ask your SIL to go have one and pump into Michelin la. Why force their standards on you sia? Thirdly, please educate your brainless and rude sil that bm are made up of mostly water unlike fm so they don’t need extra water. If she force you to order fm, make her pay then when it reach, bless it out 😎. Last but not least, whether I want to give apple juice, fm, fresh milk or bm should be MY choice. I would totally unleash the tiger in me man. Keep quiet they will think you hello kitty. I cannot when it comes to rude people like this argh!!!

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