In-laws unsolicited advice

Hi mga mi. Pahingi naman ng advice. Pag Christmas/Father's Day/Mother's Day/Birthdays, lagi nyo din ba kasama in-laws nyo magcelebrate? Ganun kasi setup namin ni husband. Nakabukod kami, pareho ding wfh, pero everytime may event, sama kami magcelebrate with parents and sisters nya. Mabait naman sila sakin pero consistent lang kasi yung unsolicited advice nila sa parenting namin. na mag formula na yung 5months old baby namin kasi baka di na nasasatisfy sa gatas ko, magpacifier, gumamit ng hipseat carrier etc. Nag no na kami sa una palang, pero everytime magkikita, inoopen na naman nila yung ganung topic. Inopen ko sa husband ko na di ako comfortable na paulit ulit yung advice nila kahit nag No naman na kami and kung pwede ba bawasan yung times na kasama namin sila lagi pag nagcecelebrate. pero nagalit lang sya sakin kasi wala naman daw problema. wala namang bad intention family nya. Wala naman daw pinakitang masama saakin. Iniisip ko kung ako ba talaga yung problema. 😥 #Help #inlaws

Anonymous

5 Replies

Magsulat ng reply

Hi mommy, I definitely get your point here. But there are things that you may just ignore kasi at the end of the day, you as the mom pa rin ang masusunod how you raise your baby and as long as it is for the baby's welfare. You may, however, explain why you choose to do yung choice niyo. For example, pag sinabi na iformula na kasi baka hindi satisfied sa BM, tell them, baby's okay and pedia advised that BM is still the best for babies up to 2 years at yung iba nga umaabot pa ng mas matagal. Pacifier isnt recommended by the pedia either kasi it causes kabag and may cause teeth problems pag hindi naalis ng maaga. Hipseat carrier is only for kids na mas matatag na ang spine and other bones. Thoroughly explain to them why para magets nila where you are coming from. It happens to me a lot rin. Most of the time deadma, but kapag alam kong mali, I reason out. As for celebration, baka kasi sinanay niyo na palagi sila kasama, and your husband thinks it's okay kasi you go with it naman. Next time, try mo ikaw na ang magplan and be firm na you want to it to be just your family lang, hindi kasama in-laws. Sabihin mo na sa birthday mo, kayo lang walang iba kasi gusto mo naman sila masolo.

Ella Kriziana Cruz

Sis sabihin mo may tiwala ka naman sa snsabi ng pedia.. wag kamo sila mag alala hehe okay si baby

Choose your battles mommy. Just don't take it personally. Isipin mo na lng that their intention is good and that they only want what they believe is for the best for baby, don't take it as a personal attack on your parenting style (although it may sound like it). At the end of the day, ikaw pa rin naman ang masusunod ☺️Just be civil with them. It's better din sana if you and your husband are on the same page para sya na lng din yung nagpapaliwanag..

Hindi namin kasama in laws namin sa lahat ng special events hehe. There are 2 options naman sa mga unsolicited advice nila, pwede ignore mo lang, labas sa kabilang tenga. Or kung matapang tapang ka, you may respond na you choose to follow your pedia ganon hehe

communication is the key. explain to them kung bakit hindi mo ginagawa yung advice nila sayo in a good proper way yung hindi nakaka offend. pamilya parin kasi sila ng husband mo at siguro kung ikaw nasa sitwasyon ng hubby mo ay baka masaktan ka rin.

Ganyan din in laws ko. Pero ngayon kahit birthday namin mag asawa di na sila kasama.. kala ko ako lang naririndi sa mga sinasabe ng mga in laws ko meron din pala dito.hahaha! Minsan ang sarap sagutin pero respeto padin talaga nangingibabaw.

Buksan sa app