I didn't know how tough pregnancy was until I went thru it myself. I certainly bcm more understanding and able to empathise now. Then, after a miscarriage, I rem avoiding anything related to pregnancy so as not to feel the pain or be reminded of my unborn baby. I feel like many times it's bcs other ppl are struggling with life too. The incident taught me to lower my expectations on ppl (family, friends). After 2 years trying, I'm pregnant again now. week5. Sending love and hugs to you, mummy. You are not alone. ❤️
For friends, I feel like if you haven’t been through pregnancy you may not know how tough it is. I felt bad not being there much for my friend when she was pregnant actually and only realized the support needed after being pregnant myself.. my other friend just gave birth and the people in my clique didn’t ask or meet up much during the pregnancy but they were enthu to meet her and baby after she gave birth too.. so I think we all don’t mean it 🥲
Hmm. I’m that kind who wish ppl don’t ask so much during my pregnancy unless they are also pregnant or have kids themselves and able to empathise with me. Usually my friends around me won’t be so enthu after I gave birth leh. For close friends yes, they want to see the baby and I’m ok with it. For my first pregnancy, only very closed friends and family members knew about my pregnancy. The rest only know after my baby is born haha
You can just reply them saying that you’re busy taking care of baby and wanna spend time with your family only. Cause you’re still on maternity right? (I assume) then you need to rest. You need to learn to say no and tell them your honest feeling. I suppose you don’t really need those friends anyway haha then just reject them la. Anyway, handling a baby is tiring and energy consuming… where got time to entertain friends.
my single friends didn't understand what it's like to be pregnant or be a mum, and so to some extent they were less able to support, give advice or tips but they still helped where possible. I guess I was fortunate that the people around me were not like that. Those who didn't care still don't after baby came out (which is ok) and those who did still do.
I tink i might be abnormal but i prefer ppl not to disturb me after i give birth. I also dont feel i need any one’s concern during pregnancy. I dont like ppl taking photos of my LO and posting but some ppl just dont listen. So tbh, i rather they dun suddenly show concern. At wk 15 now but only really close people know i am preggy. Low profile!
My baby has yet to come out but i can already feel what youre talking about. Never ask about me or whatsoever then when baby come out confirm pretend like theyre the most enthusiastic, or even possessive (mil). Like theyre not there when i was suffering (despite knowing i was suffering) Lol. I feel like this is very very common.
Hi sis! Im also dealing with what u are feeling rn , whats more funny is my MIL not even proud to announce to her relatives side ppl that im pregnant she say aft i give birth then say … lol right and my MIL doesnt even help me much or ask anything during my pregnancy now despite that we live tgt
I feel the same way. Whenever there is family event, they will only want to see and be with baby. It makes me not want to attend these events so it gives me some peace of mind.
Are they jealous of your pregnancy or newborn ?🤔