Lesser Intimacy

Same! My sex life has gone out the window ever since I got pregnant with my firstborn. When I was in 3rd tri, we had intercourse 1 month before I popped and then the next one was almost 3 months later reason being I had emergency c-sect so had to be more careful. After that we had intercourse like twice a month or sometimes once a month. It gets dreadful to have intercourse to the point where my husband is not even interested. I’m tired looking after my firstborn and now that I’m pregnant with 2nd, communication has gone down the drain and into the shithole. He’s treating me like a log of wood, a roommate. I’ve caught him with a shitload of porn websites many times since we got married until now. Everytime we have sex, I’m always on top and he’ll cover his face and be like a dead fish. I’ve cried too many times, blamed myself and even regretted my marriage. However I practise patience and istighfar, I tell myself that my husband tak cukup dosa so let him add on more. Biar lah Allah handle dia. Everyday I doa for Allah to jaga his iman. I’ve come to a point where I don’t see happiness in being married to him but happiness in being a mother to my children. I hope you can have a deep heart to heart talk to your husband because once baby is out, things will be more chaotic if there’s no understanding. Good luck and take care.