I think I'm losing it. My baby is 2 weeks old and I am standing at the window crying together with her. It's so hard. I look at her and I love her but it's really hard. She wakes up ever hour crying and I just don't know what to do.

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Hang in there, mummy!! The initial stages will not be easy. Get some help! Hire a nanny or if your family members are available, reach out to them. Yes, your baby needs you for comfort and food, but you must also take care of yourself. Rest must be rather elusive right now given your baby’s frequent waking. But all these will pass once your baby get used to different routines and schedule. Sure, there will be grow spurts and teething and sleep regression (the list never ends) and what not, but all those will pass too! If you need to take some time out for yourself, speak to your hubby and/or family members. You are only human and you deserve a break. While you will want to put your baby first, you also need to remember that only if you are well, you would have the energy to attend to your baby adequately. I am not suggesting anything here but I still want to highlight some signs of postpartum depression, just for your information: The most common postpartum depression symptoms are: Social withdrawal, low energy, decreased sex drive, exhaustion and an overwhelming sense of despair. There are also some less common symptoms, which most are unaware of. - frequent headaches, stomach upsets and even panic attacks. - intrusive, disturbing thoughts. Usually, these thoughts will often revolve around the baby and scenarios that involve accidents, injuries and even the death of the little one and will leave you in a frightened and anxious state - eating much more than usual, and even after you are full - frequently having brain fog. It could start by having difficulty in remembering things, inability to multitask, inability to finish even a simple task, and just going through the day as if in a daze. - appears disconnected from life and no longer cared about your appearance, the family or the baby - often angry or irritated. At the tiniest provocation, will yell at everyone, throw things, or stomp feet in frustration. - appears to have bonding issues with the baby, such as feeling distant, uninterested and sometimes even resentful of the baby. You can refer to these two articles for more signs to watch out for: [This article described the symptoms in easy-to-relate way] http://www.postpartumprogress.com/the-symptoms-of-postpartum-depression-anxiety-in-plain-mama-english [And this article highlighted eight symptoms that are not often mentioned] http://sg.theasianparent.com/8-unexpected-symptoms-of-postpartum-depression/ Just listing these out so that you have some awareness of this condition. With the hormonal changes and overwhelming new role as a mummy, it is perfectly normal to experience the occasional blue and getting frustrated. Knowing the signs of postpartum depression is just so one could catch herself and seek professional help if it is required. Stay strong mummy!! Take good care of yourself!!

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