Anyone feels the same about inlaws living together?

I NEED SPACE! Used to like my MIL a lot, but after having kids I find her extremely annoying to the point where I didnt realise that the way I speak/ attitude to her changed, and even sighed at the thought when she comes back from work. Currently living in my In-laws place while my husband and I wait for our BTO and will only be ready in 4 years' time. Have 2kids (3yo, 5months) and I find my MIl to be annoying after she tried to interfere with almost everything from parenting, to food that I feed my child (eg: dont feed the kids rice dishes when sick, dk what kind of logic is that, passed down from her mum) and more. Like trying to convince me to sleep train my younger one earlier cuz he still wakes up to latch at night as he cosleeps with me(preciously tried to convince me to do it to my older boy). I refused to though it will make my life easier. Cant stand her, and I feel like im slowly becoming the bad daughter in law, who shows attitude. Im trying my very best to control be polite, but sometimes I unknowingly became sarcastic. Help!!! (article screenshot from Theasianparent)

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Me too. I used to like my mil. When living with my pil wo kids, it was ok for me. There was no conflict or whatsoever. But the moment my pil knew I was pregnant, i felt that my mil will start to intervene in certain matters like how I should do my confinement and take care of my baby and stuffs. And she would also compare me to my sis in law and keep wanting me to follow what my sil do. Worst still, she likes to comment and compare everything i do to my baby, but yet she herself dont know how to take care of baby. She doesnt even dare to carry my baby until she was 3-4months old. So yes, altho we were living happily before i had a child, the moment i am pregnant, everythinf changed. it seems that they felt that they have a right to intervene in your matters once you have their grandchild bcoz the grandchild is theirs. Luckily my bto was rdy by the time my child turned one. I actually couldnt tahan anymore and moved back to my mum house for a month b4 i moved. Til now i still dread gg to visit my pil.

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