Anyone feels the same about inlaws living together?

I NEED SPACE! Used to like my MIL a lot, but after having kids I find her extremely annoying to the point where I didnt realise that the way I speak/ attitude to her changed, and even sighed at the thought when she comes back from work. Currently living in my In-laws place while my husband and I wait for our BTO and will only be ready in 4 years' time. Have 2kids (3yo, 5months) and I find my MIl to be annoying after she tried to interfere with almost everything from parenting, to food that I feed my child (eg: dont feed the kids rice dishes when sick, dk what kind of logic is that, passed down from her mum) and more. Like trying to convince me to sleep train my younger one earlier cuz he still wakes up to latch at night as he cosleeps with me(preciously tried to convince me to do it to my older boy). I refused to though it will make my life easier. Cant stand her, and I feel like im slowly becoming the bad daughter in law, who shows attitude. Im trying my very best to control be polite, but sometimes I unknowingly became sarcastic. Help!!! (article screenshot from Theasianparent)

Anyone feels the same about inlaws living together?
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Everyone has a choice and sometimes sacrifices need to be made. If you chose to live with your in laws because someone can take care of your kids when you're working, or because you can save money while waiting for BTO, then learn to respect and give in to the elders who have more years of experience having raised their own children. Afterall it's their home. You're not accommodating them, they are accommodating you and your family. If you can't stand them, then spend that extra few thousand dollars a month and move out and have your own space and make adjustments to take care of your own kids. Can't have the best of both worlds.

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4y ago

I feel u.. same thing here