Hi , I am getting a domestic helper in a few weeks' time. Can mummies with helper share some tips with me pls? Eg. Does ur helper eat the same food as u during mealtime? Do you scoop out her portion first etc? Many thanks for sharing ur insights.

Yes, same food as us. I usually ask my helpers to eat whenever they want. I never had any issue except for my current one. She takes a larger serving of rice, which I believe is sort of expected as she has to do a lot of manual work. However, she wasn't considerate if other family members will have enough or not, which I hadn't expected. So, I had to make it a rule that whenever she serves for even one person, she should serve for the rest equally. Rice is unlimited but not the rest of the stuff. With my experience, I suggest you start by serving for her first, and only when you are comfortable and she knows how your family works, let her take her own serving. Usually, In try to see that she gets either same as the rest of us, or slightly more. I think having good food and being treated well are the few things which can keep them motivated. I am not sure if she was hurt when I made this rule, but I had to do this so that my family doesn't suffer, and also I can't let my family budget go out of proportion.