Feeling depressed

I just delivered my baby about 20days ago via cesarean. I am doing my confinement now and I don’t feel good with everything. I just feel that I am very ugly (because of my bulgy tummy), dirty (because of confinement, I can’t wash my hair every day and I am still bleeding) and pain everywhere (wound, nipples and breast pain as I am only pumping and not latching). Does anyone else feel that way as well? My baby doesn’t want me when she cries as well. Sigh. #1stimemom #advicepls

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It’s perfectly normal to feel this way. I still remember feeling this way (after a c-sect too!) and I thought I was going crazy. I felt sad most of the time. It’s depressing. Everything hurts. To move, to sit, to stand, to turn, to carry a wailing baby, nipples are cracking, pumping took a toll on me, baby latching seemed like a nightmare, trying to figure out baby’s cues, don’t know what baby wants, kept waking up for feeding, not enough sleep, need to adhere to confinement rules, can’t bathe, can’t drink cold water, must wear all covered, having heat rash underneath my clothes, having to deal with plantar fasciitis, don’t even have appetite to eat and the list goes on. I kept telling myself, this is just a phase. You’ll go through it so quickly that one day you’ll realise, oh s*** tmr going back to work liao. 😭 It’s hard, we all know. You’re not alone. And it’s not that baby doesn’t want you, it’s because she’s just sleepy, hungry, wants to be loved, wants your attention, wants you to sing a lullaby, etc.. after all, you carried her for 9 months in you and tell me she doesn’t want you?? She’s the closest thing you had near your beating heart. Your beating heart calms her. Girl, the more she cries, the more she needs your undivided attention so drop everything and tend to her before she grows too big too fast before your very eyes. Confinement period will pass, wounds will heal, baby girl will grow and you will become better and stronger every day so chin up, breathe and take it slow. ❤️

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you are not alone. I felt the same when i just gave birth as well. do you engage ppl to help you do massage? It helps to push back your tummy to where it belongs! confinement sucks i know!! but it will be over very soon, really try not to wash ur hair daily becoz I did and after confinement I keep having headaches T.T but of coz if you really cannot tahan, rmb to blow dry immediately. If you have oversupply issues you may wish to use cold cabbage to put over your boobs, avoid nipples, 10mins most. you will feel better! for nipple pain use avent nipple cream! moisturise after breastfeeding/pumping. During confinement I feel very detach with my baby. She prefers my MIL then me. but here I am, 13months later, I cant shake my baby off coz she sticks to me 24/7 😅. If you have someone to help you, please let them help! Confinement is for you to rest. If you need help in taking care of baby, let your family members know. 😘 hugs to you mummy!

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Talk openly to anyone within your family or with your friends whom have a positive mindset whom you are comfortable with. Don't be depressed, you have given birth to a wonderful baby, joy should be ahead while you take care and raise your baby in the years ahead. Motivate yourself, think positive and don't let depression defeat you. If you are down, who to care for your baby, your hubby & your family? Stay Positive mummy! Mummy please - when our baby was a new born she also cry when we tried to carry her. We as parents need to learn how to carry and coax our baby in a responsible and caring way, only then baby will feel a sense of security and feel comfortable.

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I felt the same way after delivering my son in 2018! Mummy, its okay to feel this way. But try to look at the positive side! You managed to give birth to a healthy baby. It took us almost 40weeks to grow them inside of us, give ur body some time to return to pre pregnancy size. You can consider to use dry shampoo for ur hair to make urself feel better. The pain will likely be gone soon, just tahan abit longer ok. We, mommies are strong women! We can and will get thru this tough confinement period! Jiayou jiayou!!!!

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Hi, What you are experiencing is normal post pregnancy and you need not worry much. Just take one step at a time and right now focus on taking rest and healing yourself. Also, bonding with baby happens slowly slowly so please don't be hard on yourself. Whenever you feel stressed, do speak to your husband on how you feel and wash your hair everyday as it keeps you fresh and relaxed plus maintaining hygiene is very important. Take car mum!

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I think you might be feeling some baby blues or perhaps a little stress? As for the tummy, don’t worry bout it now and worry bout it later. I bathe & wash my hair daily though, but I do it in the day, with herbal water & blow dry immediately . I can’t stand not doing it . I’m not latching too, only pumping & I understand how hard breastfeeding can be. But hang in there! As for the baby, I’m sure ur baby wants you, they want mummy

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You might be having baby blues..take one day at a time ok.. I understand abt ur confinement rules but why not try to shower properly and maybe wash yr hair with herbal or something.. its impt to keep very clean during this period.. on top of tht it helps us to feel fresh and to me, helps to keep my mind fresh also 😅 seek help frm yr husb n family.. bonding with baby takes alott of time dont worry abt it ok!

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I felt that way postpartum too. and I was eager to get back in shape. I also thought I could regain my flat tummy and slim waist but truth is, I took 2 years to really feel normal again, even mentally. so, take time. avoid the mirror. focus that u are yr baby's world, give both of u and baby to get used to each other and also the new world for ur baby might be intimidating so be there for her. jiayou mama.

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Sounds like starting of post partum depression. U may want to consult a dr for advise on what to do.