I checked my toddlers ipad browsing history and saw 100 of pages of porn! The only person who has access to it is my maid - what should I do?

Dangerous. She has ugly mind (at the moment). She could fantasise any men (I hope you read between this). Any maid with such thinking is desperate for men's physical intimacy. You need to explain/threaten that it's a crime. Warm and may be give just a chance. Same time monitor through surveillance (camera), etc what she is doing. Probability of bringing men to home or when go out alone mingling with any men and subsequent trouble to you is very high. We had an Indo maid who brought the Indian contractor who was part of Defects team when we moved to new condo, and had sex...ended up she behaved differently out of fear being caught and finally revealed the truth after we filed a police case for illegal trespassing against that man. She was placed in a Home and had a Wonderful Singapore life (free lodging, food, in-house part time work that paid of handsomely we believe) of 3 months with police (IO) dragging the case. In FB she posted pictures of her with nicely bought clothes, make-up, bday celebration etc with Home volunteers. We wondered the public's donation/charity made to such Christian missionaries goes to feed and lodge such terrible people like this our ex-maid's paid vacation at the expense of the employer's wrath/heart-burn. We suffered to handle our 16m old toddler and 3yr old kid ourselves as we both work and were terrified at the thought of employing another maid, up until now. Govt and Right's groups have given lot of freedom to the FDW at the mercy and suffering of employers. Cost of employing and re- employing a maid rips off your life's saving and with crook maid agencies suffering of young parents with modest earning would go on and on seeing no end. Good luck. (Sorry for irrelevant stuff, but it's my story related to similar situation as yours and how it went about)

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I think being direct is a good way to solve a problem. Talk to her directly about it that it's not cool since child has direct access to it. Also, make it clear that while she is in the house she should NOT be accessing porn even from her personal devices. See how her response is. If she is apologetic about it and understands the gravity of situation, I would probably give her a second chance. If she gives a I don't care kind of response, let her go since she might just find another way of accessing porn. Follow instructions https://support.apple.com/en-in/HT201304 to setup parenting control

Agree with Jamie that you can set parental lock to restrict her access. Here's how you can do it:http://ipad.about.com/od/iPad_Guide/ss/How-To-Enable-iPad-Parental-Controls-Restrictions.htm#step1 Do speak to her so that she knows it is not acceptable for her to be surfing porn on your ipad. There is also a possibility that she is unfamiliar with operating the ipad and chanced upon those pages while trying to navigate the websites. However, if the pages are accessed over a number of days, then chances are that she is misusing the ipad.

Oh no! That's awkward. I think you should definitely confront her. But also keep an open mind that other people may have had access to the iPad. Be firm but still polite in telling her that it will not be tolerated. If she seems defensive or unwilling to change her ways, let her go. I personally wouldn't feel comfortable having someone so careless around my kid. Sure, she's human and she has the right to check sites she wants. But she should do that on her own time and using her own gadgets.

Talk to her immediately and let her know the possible effects of her actions (not just for your family but for herself as well) if she still push through with watching porn. Because watching over hundred of pages of porn, most importantly if these pages have been watched for a very short period of time, can be a type of addiction already. Super agree with setting parental lock to restrict her access. You can also consider installing internet filter which blocks unwanted content.

I would choose to be upfront with her about the matter. Only because it's a serious one. Tell her (but nicely), that this is not the right thing to do, especially because your toddler uses the same iPad. Let her know that such behaviour will not be accepted - these are house rules. I would also start looking for another helper. I would feel really uncomfortable having someone in the same room as my husband - and this will drive me crazy.

Talk to her about it. Definitely not something you can/should ignore. You also need to sort out that issue. If she has her own device, fair enough. Just need to tell her that your child's things are your child's. Not hers. I don't know how well she has helped out but if it's something you can look past, great. If you're uncomfortable, time to let her go.

Everyone has seen porn before. No big deal. It must be a lonely job and porn is a normal way people tend to that lack of physical intimacy. Just let her know not to use your toddler's iPad (why does your toddler even have an iPad)? Maybe have her use her own phone. Or give the iPad to her. She seems to have better use for it anyway.

Wah all of you mummies are so tolerant. I would immediately let go. Sorry this sounds like trouble. Next thing there will be bangla in my home and then before you know it deposit will kena revoke because she is pregnant. Thanks but no thanks. Some more how to trust her with hubby as well - so sexed up confirm will seduce.