I Want To Make Love Not Just F*ck

My husband has been pretty uninterested in sex. I have tried many things like buying new lingerie or new nightwear... He is hardly interested. We do have sex once in a while, say once a month? But all the time, I initiate them. And it no longer feel like we're making love. Feels more like f*cking and getting it over and done with. I have talked about this to him but he hardly shows interest. Even if he does listen, the next round of sex would feel special. Then it is all back to square one.