Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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my mil told me is blessed that we are able to conceive no matter what is the gender, and my hubby does tell me before he is not owing the family a grandson so his parents doesn't say much about gender even though my hubby is the only son. they are quite caring and respectful to me too. if they are really nasty abt gender i will definitely say it is actually the male sprem that decide the gender, not mine, so blame it on your son instead.😝

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5y ago

that's nice! my FIL ends up not giving me any tonic, or even words of concern, or small talk about the pregnancy. it's like me and my tummy are invisible to him haha.