Have you been in this situation ?

definitely have felt like i’m alone during my pregnancy because no one else can really understand what i’m going through. i constantly found myself subconsciously comparing my contribution/ efforts during the pregnancy to my partner’s. on hindsight, this was very toxic and not at all helpful for my own mental health. every time i felt that my partner wasn’t doing enough, i would try to catch myself and reflect if it’s just the hormones blowing up my feelings and try to think of things my partner has actually done. usually i would feel better and if i don’t, then i try to talk to my partner about how i’m feeling and discuss how he can help me. at the end of the day, our partners will never experience what we’re going through so it’s unrealistic to expect them to automatically know and understand how we feel. we might need to be more upfront and vocal about what we need but the most important thing is that they’re willing to listen and make an effort.