unsupportive family. :)))

I would rather my baby have no grandparents to call rather than having to feel not wanted or taught the wrong stuffs. My case is I chose to cut all ties with my mum because she’s just toxic and I wouldn’t want her to ruin my life. She had me at 18 but all she did was play games on the computer all day and would just whack us whenever she didn’t had enough sleep. Every 2-3 days we will go to school with cane marks all over our legs. It was so embarrassing but that didn’t stop her. She asked my older sister to sleep with rich guys so that she can give her money like which mother does this. (My sister obviously didn’t.) I remember there was once where she called me to the room, asked me to lift up my shirt and they were all talking about my nipples growth with all my uncles around? (Back then I was in primary school so I didn’t thought much of it.) As I grow, I WAS disgusted that she could even do that to her own daughter. I was brought up by my grandma (VERY money minded but prefers female to male so I was considered lucky?) and only went back to my dad when I was 13. Thank god my dad & his current wife are good people. This is the 4th year I didn’t contact them (my mom’s side) and life is so much better compared to when I’m still in contact with them. So mummy, as much as people say family is important, we really have to decide for our own whether they are worth it. Outsiders will think we are unfilial if we cut all ties, but have they put themselves in our shoes. What I want to say is, we decide how we want our life to be. Stay strong mummy! 🤍 Lastly, what I read from above, your mum seems alright, maybe just not so excited but not toxic. Try communicating with her first? :)

at least u know u have a supportive husband and to me, that is all that matters. I'm currently in sg with my hubs but my immediate family aka my parents are in msia and I haven't been able to see them since covid so about 2 years plus. we don't have a strained r/s but we are not those very very clingy to one another haha cos I studied in sg since young and during my poly days, I stayed in sg alone and only go back msia once or twice a month lol. when I told her I was expecting, just a week ago, she was elated because she has been pushing me to give birth soon and didn't want me to give birth when I'm too old. had a phone call for an hour plus (after so long) and that was it hahaha. told her I have bad morning sickness and she only told me to try some sour plums lol then MIA already. not that she doesnt care but more like she isn't worried too much about me knowing that I can take care of myself and my hubs will be around. like Asian parents don't really showcase their love physically. I haven't even spoken to my dad about it. my mom just relayed the msg to him. so now, I'm stuck here facing my first trimester alone with my morning sickness peaking but my hubs has been doing the household chores for now cos I really feel v nauseous all day long and he didn't wanna inform his family until we clear the first trimester and also partly because my MIL is a bit cranky and v superstitious. he scared that his own mother will keep coming over to disturb and anyhow cook food for me to eat. I think having a supportive hubs is really impt and u have one! stay positive and be happy!