Struggling with Boundaries

Gosh, the involvement of my mother-in-law in raising my child is CRAZY. While I appreciate her love and concern for her grandchild, I find myself feeling overwhelmed and, dare I say it, a bit suffocated by her constant interference. Don't get me wrong – I understand the importance of family support. However, it seems like every parenting decision I make is scrutinized, and my mother-in-law believes she knows what's best for my child. I cherish the time spent with my little one, and I want to build a strong and nurturing bond with her. But it feels like I'm constantly walking on eggshells, afraid to make a move without the judgment of my mother-in-law. I long for the freedom to explore my own parenting journey, make mistakes, and learn from them, without the constant interference. I've tried having open and honest conversations with my mother-in-law about boundaries, but it seems to fall on deaf ears. I want to foster a harmonious relationship, but I'm not sure how to balance respecting her role as a grandmother while still maintaining my autonomy as a mother.

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AH ALWAYS THE MIL!! Always always. Old people and their old ways cannot move on from their old times. To them we know nothing about the upbringing of our OWN child and they know best since theyve raised their children LOL. I have come to a point to set boundaries i dont even care if she’s offended with me. Worst, im staying with my in law. My mil likes to talk like she knows everything about my child, esp to others lol. I rather stay away from her if can. Like weekdays after fetching baby from ifc, and reach home i straight away bring my baby to our room and close door. When i want to bathe my baby and need to go to toilet, my mil will want to interact with my baby and ill just ignore. I dont even care what my mil thinks of me. Cause at the end of the day i am my child’s MOTHER, i know whats best for her and ill be shaping her life. Stop asking me what to do and ask me do this do that to my child. If you want, go make another baby.

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4mo ago

Same scenario too but i wish i can be like u. I dont even wish to get on her bad side cuz it will lead to an argument or unhappiness and affect me since we are also staying together. So i just chose to shut. But i only be firm on what she do to my LO that i dont like. But its annoying when she do it again and again. Really hate it when she pretend to know everything cuz she just copying what i do with my kid. Or ask me den pretend she knows it herself. Lol even show me thinking i dont knw my child development when im awaes with my child.

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