Husband wants baby no2

It's your body so you got the say. If you're not ready so be it but better use a protection or take some family planning pills, etc. Our body needs a lot of rest and actually takes long to recover. You may be fine outside but not the inside and you're only 5 mths pp. Give your body a rest first. It's already exhausting after giving birth + the lack of sleep. Taking care of a child is not only a mum's job but the father too. Poor baby is only 5 mths old, still clingy and daddy already wants a sibling for him. But then I knew of many who have a very near age gap for their children. Must be exhausting! My husband's aunt gave birth to 2 babies in a year! My children are 2, 3 and 10 years apart 😁

The decision to have another baby is for both of you to make together. It cannot be one-sided. If he wants the kid, then he needs to share the burden of pregnancy and child care. He also needs to cater to your needs and make sure you don’t burn out. From what you’ve described, you’re already burning out with 1 kid. Which then means that he’s not helping you enough to raise this first kid. My honest opinion is that both of you are not ready for the second one. And there’s absolutely no guilt or shame in that. With regards to sex, if you feel up to it, sure. But both of you will need to agree on no baby first, so that he uses protection, or you take meds for prevention.

Pls remember that it’s your body and you’ll be the one carrying the baby if you have no2. At 5 months pp, your body is still recovering (I’m 7 months pp and there are days that my body still feels so worn out). Don’t pressure yourself just cause he wants to have no2. Talk to him and discuss about it. Tell him how you feel and hopefully he starts to understand that having a baby “is not as easy at it seems”. I’m thankful that my husband & I on the same page and we only planned to have next one earliest after baby turns 1 years old. Sending love and strength to you. 💕💕💕

Don't feel pressured to have baby #2 just because he wants one. You need all the time, energy and effort to look after yourself and baby #1. Babies need a lot of attention, and the both of you should use the time to grow and bond with the baby instead of having another one so quickly. I know it's frustrating, but you could consider counselling so that both of you can find a way to work through this issue together. There are plenty of free counselling services in Singapore, you could even approach Family Service Centres! They provide free counselling too :)

I understand it can be frustrating communicating or explaining how you feel to him, but if you are not ready you are not ready. He needs to respect your needs, even if you can't quantify it or he can't understand it. The decision to raise another baby is a big one, and it is a much bigger health and mental burden for you than for him. If it is an education issue perhaps you can get someone he listens to psycho him into understanding there's no rush.

Hi mummies do let your body to rest 1st and talk to your husband let him understand what you really want or need cause to me to be very honest taking care of a 5 months old baby plus a newborn it is very hard and if you want you can tell your husband that next year or end of this year then have baby number 2 at least let your body fully rest and recover for up to 1 year

Make sure u give your body a rest before having another baby...it takes a toll on ur body. U just had a baby u need to make ur health a priority cause u hv a baby that needs you. Just explain to him n my personal advice is if he wants to be angry let him be. You should be ur first priority!

Do try to let your husband understand why you don’t feel happy and don’t want a baby ASAP. Baby making has to be mutual and you shouldn’t be forced into it. Can he share with you his reasons why he wants another baby ASAP? He wants baby ASAP or sex ASAP? 2 different things.

It’s too soon ! Give your body and baby some time before you get in the whole pregnancy process. Explain to your husband why you don’t want it and if he wants to get angry then let it be! End of the day it’s your mental and physical health not his.

Why the rush? He can be charged for marital rape 🙂