don't get along with my fiancé's younger brother - just need someone to rant to 💀

Just my POV. 1) For this, personally I feel cannot compare. Some people are more independent and started working early while some only start late. I’m not siding his brother, just that I have 6 siblings so I understand this point. There’s a saying “人比人气死人“. But no doubt, reading on he is indeed a waste of space brat la. 2) I would do it back to him, if his mother has any complaints, ask her to buy for her son again lor. Her son, her responsibity. You already helped her take over her older son’s responsibility alr still expect buy 1 free 1. Technically your husband and you are considered another family, but if he say because you’re staying at their house, everything is their property, then it should be vice versa. Your husband’s family stuffs is also your stuffs 😇. 3) My husband’s older bro does this as well, wash a few times ok close eye. Imagine one coffee cup leave there for 5-6 days then accumulating so many ants, I’m not gonna touch that wtf. Subsequently I just leave it there, his mother can help wash if she finds it eyesore, ITS THEIR HOUSE WHAT. For this I would have told my husband off if he asked me to wash and he can be prepared to wash his(husband) own dishes from then on. 4) Come up with 101 excuses to not collect the food, even food delivery also got comms. Nothing is free, including my service. Respect works both ways, so if no one is respecting my privacy and efforts, then I won’t continue.

WA , this .. abit too much. I agree with you that he is able bodied an he should be doing those basic things himself at 20yo. You being pregnant now sometimes cannot stand for long let alone wash dishes at the sink (I know how that feels I’m currently 25 weeks) Also I don’t see a need to do the things like collect food for him (unless you also just nice collecting yours) or washing his dishes for him cause this will just become “your responsibility “ in time to come. For me , such cases I’ll just decide what I want and don’t want to do. If Idw to do it forever or let that become my responsibility, I won’t start helping in the first place. Also it’s rude to take other’s things and not ask for permission. If his family wants to spoil him I suggest letting them take over his half finished work. I don’t see why is this your responsibility tho. But it hasn’t been easy for you, hope your house comes soon and you take good care ya mummy ! 😉