Mil taking care of baby chores

Hi, you are not alone. I having similar experience, but mine was slightly better. I think that no matter how our mil are good to us, there is a selfishness in them, sometimes i felt that machiam my mil is the mum rather i am the mum. My mil is even smarter, she works in the day, so i am taking care of my bb at night (how is my bb gg to see me clearly?, he could only hear my voice ya) so now, bb respond to mil voice.. I even fought with them, is so terrible when your husband ask his own mum rather then myself the bb's biological mum for opinion, like how they think that green stool is got scared (吓到), then went ahead to get chinese medicine (jin feng san), i could only keep quiet, then was like giving my husband a hint that, why not use rid wind, i got ignored about using it.. So, I not going to put i my heart anymore, I told me husband, I know you respect your mum alot, but can you respect me also, I am his real mum... First few weeks we fought alot, i am very frustrated, as had emergency c sect. And a very long scar, depressed and in pain, when I reached home, I couldn't even respond to my bb's cry, I can only depend on my husband and mil of cos I want to respond to my bb cries, but bb was sleeping at very low level, and couldn't reach him due to my surgery.. and I got blamed for not responding to his cry, bcos my mil and husband is attending to him..

I find this is abit mentally taxing for u. bonding w baby is precious, priceless, and no other help or money can buy, especially w newborn. I felt that ur mil and hub weren't understanding enough, more of they r enjoying the bb too. stand up for urself as a mom, I would set boundaries clear, it is my bb, I will set the rules. if they are over obsessed w my bb, I will also made it clear to them. I would protect what is mine at all cost. period

Just take it slowly... Dont over think things. I believe they just wanted you to be healthy. You have sacrificed enough that it is taking a toll to your own body. Just take this time to be healed. So that you can recover quickly and you will be able to take care of your baby. Congratulations! 😘

Hi mummy, I think they just trying to lessen your burden so that you won’t be so tired. Try to be positive since usually our hormones has gone haywire during this period of time, try not to let this affect your mental health, this stress may give u baby blue. Jiayou!