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Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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I have issue with my in law since my baby born. They are just plain stubborn, don't want to hear what I say even I got experience taking care of babies. Always think they are right. And my hub also side them. End up me and my hub got so bad that we are under going divorce now.

Sending to infant care is the best option to avoid conflict as you guys don’t have a same point of view on taking care of the baby. Teachers will just follow parent’s instructions and things will be way easier. There is government subsidies for working mum. For singaporean mum.

My wife and I are also facing the same problem from my in laws. But things got so much better after we decided to send our boy to infant care. Actually it is not as expensive as we thought and most importantly our boy picked up more skills than we expected. Jiayou!

It is really irritating, you're the mother and you know when or how or what to do with your little one. You have to tell to your MIL that her suggestion maybe good but you have your own decision and style. And also tell her that babies are not the same.

hugs. i experience similar things w my parents and in laws. sometimes it feels like being override and not respected although im the mom. i think it's normal. maybe just don't care her and continue w what you and your hubby agreed to do with baby?

when i was on my pantang, my mil say that i must extend the pantang until 100 days..while my mom only say enough 40 days and need to jaga makan bcse im fully bf my bby. and many things my mil remind me dont di this dont di that towards bby😌

Same here 😥 My MIL put some margarine (butter) and icing of cake in my baby's mouth without my permission. I'm so shock when she do that. my baby is 5 months old and she want to introduce my baby to solid food earlier 😭😭😭😭

I just realized I'm not the only one. I'm really thinking one day they will kidnap my baby, since I lived in MIL house I never felt the authority of being a mother.

I don’t allow my MIL and also own mother to take care of my baby. I rather get a helper at home and ask her to follow the exact instruction than to explain why I prefer this or that.

Me too, I had also this experience like yours, thats why when I knew that her parenting style is far different from mine I dont bother her time anymore, Just look someone you could trust its for the safety of the baby

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