In-laws

Sometimes its hard to decide~ My In-Law herself is not a hands-on mother herself, so her logic also funny one. My mom is very hands-on but pantang loh~ Now what era liao? Both annoyed me from time to time but i’m currently staying with in-law. So also must see situation, also will ask husband pass the message across. For example MIL keeps feeding my child sweet fruits after dinner hour, they get sugar high and they dont understand one lei

Infant care. I chose ifc too and upright told mil before i delivered. She is a smoker thus i didnt want her to take care. Money is not an issue since you work, just bear with that 1 yr of expenses, will be earned back in another year. Thats the problem when you old folks take care of baby, they will insist they are right. My mum avoided the problem by refusing to take care. Hope you find peace soon. Understand the pekchekness you are going through.

same here. My MIL is the one whose taking care my baby since my mom died 1year ago. I'm always telling them (My husbands family) don't put aceite to baby because it's not good for the babies health but they keep telling me that is good for the baby. That's why my baby is always having colds and cough. I feel annoy when they do that to my bab8y. MY MIL also putting a baby powder to my baby private part (vagina). I really hate that! I'm so worried to my baby.

I can totally relate ! I spend alot of time at work and I have no choice but to let my pils take care . sometimes I really don't get their way of doing things and it frustrates me . but I always do it my way when I'm with my baby . must be really firm with your options. I always do whatever I want in front of them to show them "hey , this works !". then they kinda like accept it but abit sour lah. but anw jiayou ! do wev it takes to raise your child !:)

Actually both you and ur mil got the best interest at heart for ur LO, it’s just that the parenting style is very different. Just have to explain to her, or get a doctor to explain to her. I believe our in laws era, they do not have much knowledge of these things hence they always listen to “hear-say” hence the pantang. If it really bother u, u need to find an alternative. If u choose to stick to ur mil, have to talk to her or tahan her.

Last time we are raised kampung style no problems at all. i think the burst of internet info has complicated alot of things of what nots. I think if an elder helps to take care of your kid just appreciate the time they spent and the effort they put it. they don't have to do so but for the love of grand children. your husband was raised by them also and he turned out to be fine isn't it? my two cents worth, don't be too fussy, keep it cool.

omg!!! totally feel you! i am in the exact same situation like you also.. too bad i do not have any remedy.. but to tahan the process..if not i would go over my parents place for a few times a week just to escape the black faces of the in laws with their patang comments..sometimes i will feel like going crazy and also almost got into arguement with hubs alot of times due to in laws reacting this way... sigh...jiayou fellow mmummya

Also one of my issue with MIL. There's nothing wrong for me when she comes here at our home however every parents has a different parenting style. They think their always right and what they do is ok because they always say they've been, that they already know what to do. That their children grew up fine but come on can they Atleast respect your decision or atleast respect how you want to be a parent to your child

I refused to let my MIL take care of my LO right from the start. I believe baby develops better in infant care =p also judging from the way she communicates with us and baby when she visits...nah... But yes, even my own mom has her own set of beliefs but i hold firm to what i think is right and best for my own child - no one else interferes

I do have in laws that have their traditional pantang hence i quit my job and be a stay home mom. Not advising you to quit your work sis but you should be firm and speak to your husband so that he can advise his mother. It's hard to speak up when we're just a daughter in law. You and your husband must have the same beliefs and always practice it with your baby.