You can try sitz bath using epsom salt every day, twice a day for 15 to 30 mins. You shouldn't be feeling any pain at your vaginal area after massage. But perhaps the aftermath of delivery. Birth twice and stitches twice. The only time I felt pain was after delivery and it took about a week or two that the stitches/swollen subside. During massage, I dont feel pain but definitely will remind my makcik urut to be gentle from body lower down.
Babe, you need to tell her you have stitches so she won’t massage your buttocks area.