Is this a red flag (am I too sensitive)?

1. Friends or family vaping within the vicinity of the baby (< 1m away) 2. Not returning the baby to the mum when baby starts crying 3. Passing the baby on to another person without asking the mum if she is okay with it first 4. Grandparent keeps asking the baby to watch tv together (tho baby’s eyesight probably not developed yet at 2m+) 5. Telling us to give excess BM to feed another person’s kid (not even relative) I am so tired from dealing with the above. I have brought up #1-4 as boundaries which I set and communicated to my husband repeatedly. But it’s still happening. Am I too sensitive or unreasonable? #advice #FTM #firsttimemom

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Everyone has their own sets of boundaries and bottom line. All your concerns are valid and should be respected at all times, as baby’s mom. 1. We can’t really ask everyone to stay away, in that case, we can move ourselves away - faster. 2. I would just tell them to give me my baby. I’m informing, not asking. 3. Depending what scenario, eg if they are over to visit baby and people are taking turns to carry baby, I am ok with it. 4. Maybe tell them to let baby hear instead of watching. Perhaps to them, they just thought of this as baby is accompanying them. Explain the cons of screen time at young age to them. 5. It’s my bm I get to decide what to do with it. I only donated my bm (stranger) when my freezer has no more space.

Got a cute little bub!

7mo ago

I second this. For number 2, just walk towards the person with your arms outstretched and carry your baby away, no need to ask coz that's your baby. For number 4, explain to them that watching tv at such a young age has negative consequences, and they can do other activities together eg. use flash cards, play, read to baby etc. For number 5, tell this person that if he/she is so enthusiastic about giving milk to others, they can do it themselves lol. It's a lot of time, effort and money to pump and store this milk, and main thing is that you aren't comfortable to give, so ignore these people.

1. i will loudly tell my husband, can bring baby to outside the house. then when ppl finish smoking n no more smoke smell. i will loudly ask my hub, u can come back already. 2. baby cry. go over and carry baby away. 3. depends on situation. dont like it, remove baby urself 4. my dad does it when my baby was young too. i told him, thank u for helping to spoil my son's eyesight. but i did communicate too that parents and grandparents need to cooperate if not the baby will just find grandparents for all the "yes, can" when parents say no. 5. if in excess, can share if others want it and u dont mind giving it.

You’re definitely NOT being too sensitive or inconsiderate or whatever bs some ppl may be saying. Your child, your rules and expectations, and your comfort level of course. I don’t give a s***. Why would I be nice to people who are disrespectful towards me as the mother.

1) i will move away. 2) i will take my baby, i wont even ask 3) the thing i HATE the most and the reason why i hate giving baby to one person. 4) bo means no. My baby, my rules. 5) crazy or what

As parents, we have the responsibility to protect our children. I can't believe there are people who vape near the baby. What is your husband thinking?

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