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Sex drive. Rant.

I am feeling so down for the past few days. I haven't been spending much time with my husband due to his work commitment/schedule. I stay home almost everyday ever since I entered the third trimester. I am now 38+1 and i started to feel lonely. I do feel like having sex on days where my husband is at home. Normally i will spray some body spray or light perfume every time after shower or even to sleep, its a habit for me to always smell good even when i'm not going anywhere. This time round, i put the extra effort to spray some sexy perfume instead to attract my husband's attention and some nice and cute sleepwear but he seems to be not interested? I have done this 3 days in a row but he ended up sleeping right away the moment we go to bed. (Yes he did spend time with me during the day but only the sex part is lacking now). I even tried hinting at him about this, he reassured me once but nothing has changed. I started to feel insecure with myself. Maybe i don't look good anymore... #justranting #insecure

(continue...) anw yesterday he wanted his needs to be fulfilled (Oral sex) but he totally forgot that i have my needs too. He literally finished his part and that's it.

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How much weight gain during pregnancy is considered normal/healthy?

Hey mummies, how much weight gain throughout pregnancy is considered normal or healthy? I’m only just 6 weeks pregnant but have gained quite a bit of weight that I’m starting to feel insecure about my body already and fear for the next 34 weeks to come.. I used to engage in intermittent fasting (16-8) and workout quite a bit (HIIT and strength training mainly), but was told to refrain from any of these during pregnancy. So now I try to briskwalk on treadmill and do light stretches instead, and snack on fruits, yogurt, and granola oats in between meals.. but my weight has gained from 49kg > 53kg… I don’t think it’s normal to be gaining 4kg at just 6 weeks. Any advice?? #insecure #weightgain

Had similar issues like yours. Was doing intermittent fasting for years. The change in how I had to eat when pregnant was quite an adjustment. I gained even more weight as my gynae instructed me not to exercise due to some medical issues in my first trimester. Now in my 2nd trimester and my weight doesn't fluctuate as much (or rather, too drastically too fast) with moderate activity approved and done consistently, and eating sensibly and healthily. It helped to know that most of the weight comes from fluids and maternal tissues (I take a screenshot of the weight breakdown to remind myself it's okay). Prior to my pregnancy, I didn't know how much weight gain to expect, so it's quite shocking... but now I'm starting to accept it as it is. I also find ways to dress fashionably, show off the bump haha and it helped. Above all, knowing baby is healthy and I'm medically well. Anyway, my gynae is not too concerned, too. Some days, I feel more insecure, and I'll put in a little more self-care, each day bringing me closer to baby's EDD!

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