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Multiple miscarriages, any hope?

Hi all, just want to share here my personal experiences and see if I still have hope. Had 3 miscarriages already Nov 2021 (pregnancy of unknown location) Sept 2022 - tried with letrozole (got sac and yolk, did not grow) Upcomimg March 2023 - tried with letrozole (probably chemical or smth similar with 1St again) I get pregnant quite fast, but if just doesn't stay or grow much. Both hubs and I did the basic test before trying for baby in 2021. All test came back normal, only hubs morphology slightly not at the best side..but can be improved with supplements.. Have been taking supplements, tried TCM for 1 year, stopped after 2nd miscarriage. Cycles normal, on time. Really don't know where went wrong. Do I have chance for a live birth? And should I try again naturally or try IVF since in my case most likely due to choromosome issues. IVF they can pretest chromosomes to up the chances. We spent a lot of money and time.. And it's not easy for my work, been taking HLS for miscarriage. I am confused and upset. Just ranting here. No mean to piss anyone off.. Thanks! #multiplemiscarriages #advicepls

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Feel pulling sensation like menses cramp before my period

I missed my period for few days now and I feel pulling sensation like menses cramp just above my c-sect scar. I’m not really constipated so I’m not very sure what’s going on. Anyone experienced anything similar?

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Food to increase uterine lining

Anyone tried taking red bean soup to increase uterine lining? Is it effective?

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Food to increase uterine lining

Anyone tried drinking red bean soup to increase uterine lining? Is it effective?

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What does a woman need after miscarriage

The situation is very delicate and personal so any couple going through this will not share with many friends or relatives, it will mostly be their close circle who will know about it. It is a terrible loss and a big blow to both the husband and wife who would have built many dream castles about their future kid, about them as first time parents. However, it is further painful for the mother as she is going through it both physically and emotionally while the husband only goes through the latter. Here are some physical and emotional needs which I felt, in my experience, is what any woman would want post miscarriage. Physical needs: A woman's body goes through a lot of pain and changes during any miscarriage and it differs from person to person. In some cases, it is an invasive procedure while in some cases it happens naturally similar to the menstrual cycle but with excessive bleeding, pain and cramps. There will be hormonal changes, loss of nutrients, loss of blood, weakness, cramps, abdominal pain, dehydration and loss of weight in few cases. A woman will need the following to cope up with this physical trauma: 1. Good dose of supplements in terms of vitamins and other essential elements which will be prescribed by most of the doctors to bring back her system to normal as it was before the miscarriage so that her body is prepared to try again and bear a foetus. 2. Lots of water to cope up with excessive bleeding and dehydration 3. Healthy and nutritious diet rich in proteins, vitamins to rejuvenate the body and replenish the lost nutrients 4. Change in lifestyle in case the reason behind the miscarriage is due to overweight, hormonal imbalance, smoking/drinking, less daily activity or over intake of junk food. 5. Physical exercises after getting consent from the doctor when to start and what to do Emotional needs: It is a big disappointment not only for the woman but for everyone in the family including the husband, woman's parents and in laws. But the woman is not to be blamed as there is no 100% probability for a successful gestation. There are lot of natural factors in our body controlling it and it is just a trial and error like scenario to for a successful fertilization to happen and eventually a successful implantation of the foetus. In some cases (like mine) where the medical reason behind the multiple miscarriage is unknown. All the test results are good, couple is healthy following all precautions/doctor's advise but destined to go through this. Here are some emotional needs a woman needs, in my experience, to cope up with the unexpected loss: 1. Care, affection, support, help and what not from husband. A husband's situation is more difficult in this case as he is going through the same emotional distress as the wife and may not even have an opportunity to share what he is experiencing. However, a woman needs an extremely supportive husband to take care of her as she is physically and emotionally weak during this time. 2. Support from the family (parents and/or in-laws)by understanding her pain, speaking soothing words and most importantly assure her that she is not to blame and it is not really the end. 3. Medical advise/guidance from the gynaecologist by being transparent about the scenario, procedures to be done to handle the situation, medications to be taken and by providing clear detailed explanation as every woman is different and every miscarriage is different. My doctor clearly explained to me how the next 24-48 hours will be and what will be her next course of action based on the test results. 4. Comforting and motivational words from the gynaecologist as he/she is the first to tell us what has happened and he/she is the first person who a woman faces after hearing about the miscarriage (at times alone and not even with husband/family member). When my doctor confirmed the miscarriage, my husband was waiting outside and I burst into tears. It was my gynaecologist who comforted me first and told me this is not the end. So I wish all the mothers-to-be to stay healthy, follow doctor's advise and get support from husband/family to get rejuvenated and try again to be successful this time.

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How did I travel through my third trimester - my experience

Third trimester is when the real action comes in. I meant the baby's kicks and pushes from inside longing to see the outside world. Due to space crunch, the baby will accidentally hit, kick, push the belly while moving around because the baby is growing fast now. Mothers are supposed to stay safe and cautious during the third trimester as pre term or early labour can be expected for some. It is good to understand what are the signs to report to the doctor and what are the alarming signs to rush to the hospital immediately. It is important to monitor the baby's kicks. Roughly there should be 5-10 kicks within 30-45 mins after you eat every meal and here and there during the day. It is important to watch your weight, in total gaining about 7-8 kg from your first trimester is safe. Continue keeping a control on sugar and sweets. There will be a glucose tolerance test for all mommies, this is very important because high sugar might cause gestational diabetes in babies so the mothers will be asked to follow a strict diet. The doctor might also give vaccination for whooping cough, flu, Tetanus. Your gynae will start recording CTG during each of your visit in this final trimester to check for contractions, baby kicks and heart beat. Mothers with multiple pregnancy have to be extra cautious. You can start ordering the postpartum and baby essentials now and if you want to go in person better get it done in the start of the third trimester itself, as I mentioned in the previous post, the checklists and planning that you did in the second trimester will be of great help now. Drink lots of water as to keep the amniotic fluid level correct. Here is my journey through the third trimester. I continued the daily walks, exercises, took the vitamins, iron and aspirin prescribed by the doctor. I felt my digestion to be a bit poor as I got acid reflux after eating so I split my meals into 6. I drank 3.5 litres of water. As days passed, I felt like peeing now and then especially in the night. This is quite common because the growing uterus is pushing against the bladder. I also experienced hard stools now and then so I started to take iron tablet on alternate days for some time and also ate 2-3 prunes daily. I used to boil rice in water and after 3-4 mins when it turns frothy will turn off the flame and drink that water warm. You can add butter to it too. This will help to keep a good level of amniotic fluid and butter will help to keep the passages lubricated. Perineal massage is good too, although I started it only around week 37. You can get help from your partner too. Everyday, I used to apply coconut oil on my belly before bath and Cetaphil moisturiser before bedtime, to keep the skin moisturized and to prevent stretch marks. I used to take a nap of 30-45 mins most of the days. I also faced sleep disturbances in the night due to anxiety, frequent visits to washroom and sometimes for no reason. Fortunately my glucose levels were in normal limits (I will not forget how much I liked the sweet drink given during glucose tolerance test). My baby's movement was good, she used to kick my belly nicely when I sing, few minutes after my meal and every night when my husband applies Cetaphil on my belly. They were unforgettable memorable moments. We finalized the hospital and filled some forms at my gynae's clinic which were then forwarded to the hospital. We did the pre-registration in the hospital website and also visited the hospital once to check with them about the confinement meal options, admission a d payment related queries etc. There were virtual maternity tours done by the hospitals through videos or zoom sessions which helped to analyse and compare the facilities to finalize one. I will write in detail about our choice of hospital and whether we were right in making that decision, in the upcoming posts. My gynae had a detailed session with me and my husband to discuss about signs of labour, onset of labour, when to contact the clinic, when to rush to hospital immediately, pain reduction options available and also the complications that could happen last minute which could end up in emergency c-sec and also asked us to sign on the forms to get our consent for her to proceed with the appropriate treatment based on how labor progresses. She also explained about the post labour complications. It was very helpful as it kept us informed of all the possible things that could happen during delivery and how they will be managed. My best wishes to all mothers to be to have a safe smooth journey through the third trimester. Be positive stay hydrated be strong. Your baby will enter the world very soon.

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Rain boots

Hi mummies, any idea where to get rain boots for 2yo+? Tried shoppee but most are frm china. Thansk!

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Rain boots

Hi mummies, any idea where to get rain boots for 2yo+ with ready singapore stocks? Thanks!

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I’m deciding if should go for iui before ivf. Anyone can share your experience? Some were saying not to waste time on iui and straight to ivf instead. 35yo here. #Needadvice

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Need some help here

Not sure if this is a positive or indent or what....

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