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For me, if helper needs to take care baby, expect that household chores/dinner won’t be done if there are no extra help. Because even I myself cannot do both as there is only that much time in a day. I can accept household chores not done but personal hygiene is priority since she will be handling baby. You have to decide helper’s priority is for housework or baby, if so, focus on one. I’m not sure about your household situation or rather how your helper is like but if I have to constantly repeat and teach the same thing over and over (since I can teach you over and over I might as well do it myself?), despite that still have to tahan your attitude (I totally understand they are humans too, but if the other party did not do anything to you, don’t show your attitude to them vice versa)… then sorry, you can leave. I treat my helper like my family (you won’t harm your family right?) and I hope she can do the same at least during her working years. It’s mentally draining if you have to keep being cautious over someone or wonder if they are gonna harm you any day. If so, what’s the point of having her? She’s here to help you offload, not to add on. But of course, this is my own household and POV. I’ve had helper from hell before too, she basically tells us to do EVERYTHING ourselves and you CANNOT instruct her to chores. She goes on her own schedule daily. Raises her voice at employers, scolds and light hits on children. When my 3yo ask her to help get him water, she replies “can’t you take it yourself? You have legs right? Cannot see I’m sweeping the floor is it?” I’m like 👀.
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Feeling so alone during pregnancy. Constantly thinking about aborting.

hi mommies. I’m currently 17 turning 18 and my baby is 12 weeks old. the baby was not planned and we found out the worst way possible. I only found out when we broke up hence it’s so complicated. our families let us be the one making the decision. he ( my current partner) didn’t say what he felt but it was so obvious he didn’t want the child nor get back together. I myself couldn’t make the decision till we heard the baby’s heartbeat. But now I’m having my doubts. I’ve never felt more insecure and alone before. This whole relationship feels so fake and disgusting. He would not put in effort to take me out on dates or even going out to eat with my family. He wouldn’t even answer a video call from me. What else wouldn’t he do when the child comes. Knowing that he didn’t even want the child, my biggest fear is him neglecting our child. He is so stingy with money to the point where I’m paying for everything. Every meal. I can’t even pull myself up to go work because of the fatigueness I’m feeling everyday. He is much older and jobless. Together for close to a year and we never once sleep at my house. His plan for the future is “I’m gonna keep $200 every month for the baby” and I can think about is , your expected salary is $2000 and you’re only keeping $200 for our child? I don’t feel the love nor trust in this relationship. I really don’t know what else to do. I know sooner or later he’ll definitely have someone else. Would I be a terrible person if I chose to abort. I love kids but I feel like this is not the right guy for me and my baby. Everyday I’ve been crying like shit. Crying every minute possible.He is not the slightest bit happy bout signing ROM. He acts as if it’s a burden to him. And everyday I feel like I’m a burden to him. pls advice I feel so lost and alone. #newmom #1sttimemom

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