Hi mummy! DEFINITELY i feel you in this situation. I dont really get it when in laws always thinks that they know everything. Like mine, during my early time giving birth on January, after giving birth my in laws will always come and visits me and baby during night time at the hospital when me and my husband already informed that visiting hours is till 8pm. But they close one eye and let visitors in. For me personally 1st im in hosptal, i need time to recover after csection, i need plenty of rest, my baby needs to be fed, need to rest and cnt be in the room often since he easily gets cold. Then i have to deal with it for 3 days straight with night visits and always will force my husband to bring the baby to my room which annoys me tbh. Then when i discharged, my mum is SUPERB at handling newborns. She knows the dos and donts. And trust me, every single bloody time my in law always have things to say. Like why never give baby pacifier which i dont want to give, why baby hand is not tucked in properly in the swaddle, why used this oil why that why this and it freaking continue! Until one day i seriously was in postpartum depression and i F my husband up because HONESTLY HUSBANDS CAN BE FREAKING DUMB. When we try to talk nicely they ignored US. They think is nothing wrong until one day my in law was already at the verge of making me feel pissed, i voiced out everything to him. Not in a nice way but in a stern and making sure it gets in his head. How can we mummies able to control our feelings when in laws kept saying "ohh baby look like his dad, baby have his in law facials, baby is smart like the father etc." like HELLO ARE WE MUMMIES THAT STUPID? Like atleast one or two words of "hey baby look like his mum! Baby have his mum eyes" thats way enough to make us HAPPY. But seriously up until today i showed them how much u love your grandchild, please know that you can never try to make me feel like i dont know how to look after my son.and because of all this attitude problems, even my parents realised how stressful i was. And like all mums say "just endureeeee.." please, in laws really need to UNDERSTAND OUR SITUATION and where we are coming from. PERIODT! 😩😩
It’s normal to feel that way. I asked for help to tc of my LO when I’m doing confinement, but I got so upset when I don’t get to carry my baby at times. I feel myself being irrational at times, but I am worried that my LO will get too close to my mil and not want me anymore. Let your hubby know to communicate with his parents that they should respect that this is your home, and you hope for them to make known to you when they wanna come by. I am lucky that my mil is understanding, and she will always ask if I am ok with the arrangements etc.
It’s normal… Anyways if you don’t want her to have access, just change to lock/pin. If your husband has issues then be the one to unlock the door for him, don’t let him have the pin/keys until he learn to respect your decision. No one should come unannounced to someone’s flat even if they have access.
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