Mommies out there, do you think is a must to engage confinement nanny?

Just want to understand why there is such a high recommendation for having a nanny since it only lighten your load for a month, but does not dismiss the fact that you still have a lifetime more to care for your child? Are there things i did not consider besides just having an helping hand to takecare of your baby only? I just don’t prefer having a stranger albeit experience person to care for my child. Would like to hear more perspective. #firsttimemom

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I didn’t engage one and I wouldn’t do it if I have a second one too. I personally feel I get more hands on and used to the routine faster and I don’t have to experience the “panickness and lost” when nanny leaves after the first month. Because of this, even after my husband had to go back to work after PL, I could handle well on my own too. Also, I don’t have the problem where I disagree with nanny’s way etc. The downside is at times I might need to search online on the “how to and what to”, lesser sleep (I have to pump anyway so no difference. Everytime after pumping I just feed and change baby then go back to sleep) but alls good. I ordered confinement food since none of us can cook.

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4mo ago

I felt the same way as well but my husband and sis in law got very agitated and felt like i did not think far ahead enough and is like i’m not taking care of myself. I do felt very hurt from this i guess is the hormones. But i do want to go through the process as well because like you say, after PL and as time goes on, this is a routine. And if being my first time as parent i want to go through this process is an experience i would never get to experience again. Ppl may argue can have a second baby to go thru thru this, but its definitely a different one from having your firstborn. Sigh, i am re-evaluating but i want to make sure i have thought thru and not being emotional like what others have said of me

For me, I need to recover my body back after delivering. This is very important for me, especially for the first two weeks at least. Don’t miss the golden period to recover back your health. Also, I don’t think my husband will be able to cope baby + house chores alone. Nobody will be cooking nourishing meals for me (because husband will be too tired). I can learn how to take care of a baby from the nanny from third week onwards while my husband learns during the first two weeks. If you have someone to take care of the baby, clean the house and cook for you, then you might not need a confinement nanny. It depends on your situation.

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