Am I being too senstive?

Here's the thing, in my 1st pregnancy, I let my MIL decide kung saan ako manganganak kasi clueless talaga ako non. After I gave birth, sila nagdecide na iuwi ako sa bahay nila. I didn't want to, but who am I to say no? Nag agree lang ako. Now with my 2nd child, gusto ko ako magdecided kung saan ako manganganak. Nagresearch na ko about sa place and asked some close friends na may exp doon. Syempre hanap ko rin naman yung mura pero may quality. Pero parang ngayon, parang sinusuggest ulit na don ulit ako manganak kung san ko pinanganak si 1st baby... Pakiramdam ko tuloy wala na naman akong say... Surely, pagdoon ako ulit, mapipilitan na naman ako magstay sa bahay nila. Yun din gusto ni partner, pero ayaw ko talaga. Kasi baka pag nangyari yun, I will lose it. Wala namanng problema sa family ni partner, actually mabait ang parents niya. But I don't really trust them to take care of my 1st child dahil hindi rin naman nila mabantayan si LO lalo na pag nandyan ako kasi mas prefer nya sakin. And my biggest concern is, ayokong ma-adopt ni lo ang ugali ng bunsong kapatid ni partner. He's not really a good example, sutil, sobrang bossy, mapanakit at siga sa bahay. I can't really deal with his attitude while taking care of a newborn and a 2 yrs old. I hate that kid attitude at kung don talaga ako mag-iistay baka mabaliw ako. Am I being overly dramatic and sensitive? #advicepls #pleasehelp

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I don't think you're being overly dramatic/sensitive naman. Syempre, ikaw ang manganganak, as much as possible, dun ka sa kung saan ka magiging komportable. I see your husband's point of view din naman. You'll be dealing with a toddler, plus a newborn, plus yourself who's also in recovery. Baka worried lang sya na hindi kayanin if walang tutulong sa inyo. Hiring someone is possible naman, pero syempre depende sa budget, space sa bahay, and of course the fact na pandemic ngayon. Siguro if there's someone you know and trust na pwedeng tumulong sa inyo, that could work. Talk to your husband, and see what you two can come up with. Even your toddler will go through an adjustment period din naman because of the newborn, so kahit sinong mag-alaga sa kanya, it's still gonna be a challenge and hahanap hanapin ka nya talaga. I feel you kasi 2yrs old din ang panganay namin and I'm due this May.

Magbasa pa

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You will have the last say naman mommy kase ikaw naman manganganak. Kayo din ni hubby nag gagastos. Kumbaga sila mil mo naman nakasupport lang sila sayo. Para saken.. lalo’t may 2 years old ka pa.. kelangan mo ng extrang taong titingin sa newborn mo o sa toddler mo pagkaanak mo. Kahit pa gano ka kaexpert sa bata.. kelangan mo pa di magbawi ng lakas after mo manganak. If di kayo papatulong sa mil mo.. mas okay may makakasama kang pwede mo makatulong pag aalaga ng mga bata.

Magbasa pa

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Talk to your partner and tell your concerns in a very nice way. Your not dramatic your just worried on what will be the surroundings of your children. Mother's knows whats the best for their children.🤗🤗

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You're just being a mom ☺️ You have to voice out kung ano po yung gusto mo. Explain yourself sa hubby mo sa maayos na paraan.

kausaoin mo po c Partner mo ,open up to him

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