A little rant about motherhood

I feel you mummy! firstly, congrats, you not only had the birth of your child, but also a new version of you ❤️ so proud of you! know that many fellow mamas are here to share that joy, fear, pain and loneliness with you. the moment I announced that I was pregnant, everyone only cared about baby. "so excited for baby to be born!" or "you went for checkup? how is the baby doing?". not once did anyone check in on me... I told this to mummy friend of mine and she agreed, that prehaps the idea of a new life in their world is more new and "sparkly" than the idea of a woman pregnant/giving birth since it is "natural" of women to do this act. speak to your loved ones (friends, partner, your siblings or parents if you feel close enough to share) about your feelings. find your supporting pillar that will cheer you on and check on you while you adapt to being a new mum. sometimes people assume (with no bad intention) that we are strong enough to hold ourselves, while they hold the baby. I personally think at the very least, husband /partner should check on you and care for you. You are both starting parenthood together, going to raise the child together. You already did the carrying of baby to full term and giving birth, he should do whatever he can to carry you and your struggles. talk to him about it, I hope and pray he will understand and support you more 🙏🏼💙

Totally understand how u feel! As FTM 3 years ago, it definitely felt very overwhelming and it sucks when ppl only obsessed with the baby. Worst when everyone kept saying tt baby was cute just like the father. It sucks esp tt I'm more tanned than my hubby and everyone (mostly hubby's side) says baby is cute and fair cz of the father. Like WTH I used to be fair too just tt they had never seen me as a kid. ugh. Feels ugh esp with the struggle of breastfeeding too. Hang on mummy, as difficult as it is, learn to ignore all those ppl. Speak to ur hubby if possible tt u need TLC too. If u have a caring mom, do speak to her too she'll understand. For me, I was extremely thankful for having my mom always checking on me and staying with me during my confinement. Even so, I still had the postnatal blues due to the struggles of breastfeeding due to low supply. This time rd fir my 2nd, I feel like I'm abit more mentally prepared even though my mom won't be ard during my confinement. Don't worry, it gets better mommy!

i'm petite and my baby was natural birth at close to 4kg. Almost died in the ward as he tried to push out at 3cm and caused major blood lost. When baby is out, everyone who came to visit went straight to baby too. Only my nephew came over to me and held my hand to ask if i am ok if i feel pain. That moment of being cared for and being seen done by a little one. Totally understand that feeling of loneliness but the journey of motherhood till now made me realized, we need to verbalise it. It is true everyone thinks it's natural for a mom to go through childbirth, hence we are there to remind them, we just turn a mom through childbirth but doesnt mean we are not a child inside.

Same mama. Same. 46hrs of failed induced labour and I ended up getting an emergency c sect... I am 6 months postpartum and i still feel like s***. I still spiral into back into depression every now and then. Its exhausting, and no one really cares. What i do is just do things that make me feel better like drinking coffee and watching comedy or go out for walks. Its hard. Its really mentally and physically hard because i dont have anyone helping me. But i keep telling myself it'll get better. Just take it one day at a time. ❤️✨🫶🏻

Hope you are feeling better now! So strong, managed to pull through such long hours of labour! I am sure everyone cares about you just that maybe the lil one more weak and appears to need more protection. You focus on your healing! Knowing that your baby is well loved and cared for 💛 talk to your hb, he should be the only person you don’t have to pretend to be ok to

same here its a traumatic induce and labour for 28hours end up csection.Almost going to die😪😪 your not alone my 1month of having a baby make me so depress.Ftm here.until now i still fell dizzy and mental breakdown

No need to feel lonely~ i dont hold much expectation now and all i hope is when i deliver my 2nd, i dun have someone who wanna come over visit at 7am during my confinement. I will b so glad over tis

Hope it gets better! ❤️❤️