Hi all! Just a random rant. My husband hardly give me gifts, bring me to restaurant. To him, as long as he can be full, it does not matter if its cheap or expensive food. On my birthday, I was given a choice of either having flowers, a cake or a gift. I can only choose one of it. Now he said that he can’t stay any longer on his job, asked me not to spend his money. In fact, I hardly spend his money. I spend mostly using my own money. We argue mostly on money and he said I was not supportive to his decision. He said he got stress whenever I asked for a restaurant meal on valentine day or my birthday and a gift. I was just feeling myself so pathetic that not even my husband is appreciate what I did for him and still being so calculative to me. It made me felt that marrying him is a mistake.

1. It is very obvious that he is tight on money and doesn't know how to express it or he has told you but you didn't take it in. 2. If he is a frugal person before you married him then this is expected. There is no right or wrong but you can hint him that gifts doesn't need to be expensive. 3. May I ask if you have an expectation that man suppose to do this and that? more expectation = more disappointment. Did he expect a gift from you on valentine's day? If he doesn't why should you? enough said. 4. At the end of the day, marriage is a union between both parties. If money is an issue just work it out. Example : If 1 party want to buy an item that is very expensive.. then that party should pay for most of it. 5. learn from Ling Fernandez, she only ask for time.. her husband spend time with her... If she ask for gifts, her husband need to work harder and less time with her.