Need some point of view and no judgement please... i am a mother of 1 and since my kid was born we have more or less decided to have just one kid as I was quite overwhelmed and do not have any room for other kids. We definitely know the advantages of having another child but I feel right now that's all I could handle... The fear of having another child was so bad that when I dreamt of it and woke up like a nightmare. And it really happened, found out I was pregnant recently and I am half decided to get it terminated. I know it's definitely bad and selfish for me to think this way but I had my worries. My kid has special needs and this journey caused lifetime worry to us and it's very REAL. I am very worried if #2 have the same issues as it can be genetic. We are also in our comfort zone of having to concentrate of loving one child, and afraid of getting stretched to give each attention, while I will be juggling with 2 kids without help. Marriage might suffer due to too much time invested in kids. Their age gap will be big, i dont find much a strong need to find them as playmates. I'm now a bit confused and not confident if i can really give birth in this kind of mentality. My hubby isn't too pleased but encourage to give birth for responsibility, don't want to get karma for abortion and believe this pregnancy came for a reason for us. I dont even know if these reasons are even good enough to carry on to give birth, since he hardly helps out with #1. The cons seems to be greater than the pros...

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Its god gift. Who knows if your #2 is normal. I seen many with #1 being autistic and #2 being perfectly normal. Although mine is all normal, but i also have the thought of abortion when i realise i have #2 when #1 was only 6-7 months old. Because, my #1 seems to have his dad character which is very difficult to please. And my #1 have a genetic of OI which have to carefully monitor. I have also mention alot time to hubby that i want abort but my in law all told me not to. And now im in 6months of pregnancy. #1 scan was like the limb and hand are short and the thigh has bend in bone. But #2 scan, they told me is perfectly fine with his bone. So both pregnancy are different. Im thinking positive side that #2 had my genes than my husband's unlike #1 had my husband's genes.

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