My husband is being asked to work in Japan for a year and was given the option to bring the family along. However, my girl has just settled in her new school and I am currently working also and in a dilemma if we should follow him there. What would you advice me if you are in such situation?

i think if it is just for a year it does not make sense to uproot everything and move, only to come back again. however, if your husband has to extend it, you can then think about transferring, as it will mean your changing your job as welll as your child's school change. in the meanwhile, try visiting him and maybe he can come over too once or twice.