Obsessed MIL!!!

Hi mummies! How should I start… So basically, my mil is very obsessed with my first son. Before he was born she was obsessed already and touching and rubbing my stomach which my husband asked me to! After giving birth, I can see that she treats my son as her son.. and on the first night at home, my son sleeps with her. And the reason why is that, my husband wants the both of us to rest which got me upset and away from my just 2-day child... As months go by, whenever I’m not happy about MY MIL. The husband refuses to listen and care for his mom’s feelings. Until now, my son is 4 months old. I feel like the husband doesn’t support my parenting style and letting MY MIL TAKE IN CHARGE! And mind you, I could not do anything about it even when I talked about it. I feel like my position as a wife is to give birth & let whatever MIL wants to do. I feel that my voice is not supposed to be heard by the husband😞 Thank you for reading my rant. #firstbaby #pleasehelp

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hi dear! I also live with my in-laws, but its not my MIL, but my FIL.. we had 100th day for my son and he just pushed my son (in his pram) and hid himself and my son in a corner of the function room, not allowing ANYONE near.. my guests complained that they didn't even get a glimpse of my baby!! fast forward 2.5yrs later, still the same problem.. didn't matter how many times I spoke to my husband to speak to him, or even spoke to him directly myself.. I lost count the number of actual arguments we had, ending up all parties black face and cold war... FIL has his own parenting style, complete opposite of mine... his style is give in to my son at every wimp, resulting in plain bad behaviour in my son till the daycare teachers complained... in fact just yesterday's Mother's Day dinner was a total screw up again cos my son refused to eat his dinner and he agreed to take him away...

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