How to handle my Mil

My mil seems to be jealous baby is close to me and has been trying to distant us. Eg. If baby sees me and cries for me. She carries him away instead and say mei you mei you (don't have in Chinese). Then yesterday she was carrying him, so I went to wash baby clothes etc. She told baby I walked away like i abandon him and add on say i walked away he smiled. It is very hurting. Another time she say baby forget about me. In order to have more time with him, she even asked me to let him very hungry then feed him. Cause I am direct latching him and she feels the feeding too fast. When baby was finally passed to me, his hands were trembling. She even tries to deprive him of sleeping just in to have more time with him. Baby is yawning and she keep say he is opening his mouth. I really feel very miserable... I respect her as my hubby mother but she is getting too much. She is also super sensitive and will probably cries if I say her. Any advice.... #firstbaby #pleasehelp #advicepls

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If she is so sensitive she will cry or feel upset no matter what you say. That is her own internal problem to solve. you’re not responsible for “babying” your MIL. do what is only right for your baby and you - which is to give her feedback and communicate with her to your best know how. Tell her you appreciate her help (give compliment when it’s due) but also point out there r areas you wish to iron out with her.

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