Pantang - before miscarriage

Question

Hi ladies recently I lost my baby.  I have engaged someone to do my post miscarriage massage. She gave me few tips and asked if I follow and I wanna ask u ladies got do the same and your believes?  Im not very religious but I do pray and respect every religion.  She asked if I kept sharp objects with me all the time which was a no.  She advise to keep like a knife near window where I sleep which I didnt do also.  I had bad dreams like I know Im going to lose my baby. Any of you experience the same before miscarrying? I only can feel sad because honestly idk wht was the reason and why I lost my child but I regret for not taking more precautionary measures be it a blind believe or not rather be safe than sorry.  Its like not a joke when elderly people advise sometimes can be funny bt mostly for good.  Please share ladies!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Im truly sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is absolutely painful, disappointing and makes you feel guilty of not taking good care of your pregnancy. Ive lost 2. And the latter took me a year to overcome the guilt and grief. I did not have any dreams before I miscarried. But know that miscarriage happens and it was never your fault. There are many reasons why it happened. A bad chromosomes is one  example. My gynae reassured me this and explained why miscarriage happens and why it is never the mums fault at all.Im not religious either but I do pray and Im not superstitious too. Most of the elderly peoples tips and advices are more to superstitious believes. In my religion, Islam, it is forbidden to do like the masseuse asked to do. As if we believe that those sharp objects will protect us instead of Allah. And miscarriage happens because its all His will.

wani · Answer

i agree with the above comment. hugs mummy!