I think most moms get over the pain of birth faster than gg through the trauma of first few months post-partum. I'm not sure abt natural delivery as I did elective csect. My boy's birth was an uneventful smooth one but I had postnatal blues due to the stress of breastfeeding. I had a low supply and my big 3.7kg baby couldn't stop wanting to latch. Decided to supplement with formula but I still cldnt get over the guilt and still tried all sorts of ways to increase my supply. Spent so much on lactation bakes etc and tt made me gain so much weight. I lost 12kg during confinement but gained more than tt aft tt due to trying so hard to increase supply. Managed to increase a bit frm eating Legendairy Milk supplements but I still suffered frm postnatal blues despite getting all the help from my mom. She even felt so helpless seeing me cry everytime I breastfeed. I couldn't help being super annoyed with my husband whenever he sleeps even tho he too helped ard with the housework. I kept thinking how unfair tt he doesmt need to breastfeed and go through all the hardwork. Outsiders or rather my Hubby's relatives made it worse when they visit and said baby was so fair and cute and looks so much like the father, right in front of my face! I really felt like telling them off but I had to just suck it up. It only got better aft 4 months when my baby start to sleep longer and cld sleep abt 4-5 hours straight without wanting to latch and i cld finally also ignore whatever ppl said abt the baby.
Currently pregnant with the 2nd. I'm not sure how it'll be like but I feel I'm more mentally prepared and really, keep telling yourself that you are good enough. Really true to just ignore whatever ppl says because post-pregnancy, your emotions gonna go haywire but pls have your lifeline and someone whom u can really count on. For me, it was my mom who was my strength and comfort and my sister who also helped to keep me sane.
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