How to avoid people wanting to carry and kiss baby

Ill be going to a relative’s wedding this comming weekend and its giving me anxiety. Esp the old folks who anyhow want to carry and kiss our baby!! My baby is 3 months old, and just recovered from covid(very traumatic experience, was even hospitalised). I want to avoid people wanting to carry my baby or even kiss my baby. I hate the idea of people passing around my baby, i dont even care if youre a relative. I honestly dont even like if my mil carry the baby at events cause shell go around walk around or people will anyhow come to her and touch touch baby. And yes me and husband agreed on using baby carrier, both konny for myself and ergo for my husband. However i feel bad for baby to be in a carrier for the whole day. And sometimes even when using carrier for few hours, can see his legs got marks from the carrier. And sometimes he would fuss when in carrier. Any other way to avoid them ? Cause some people just dont understand instruction and dont respect the mother and think we’re obnoxious. Cause recently we went to a family gathering, which i dragged the most, and some people anyhow come and kissed my baby! #firsttimemom

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I will do baby carrier for the first few hours if baby can stay inside for that that long. during those few hours, I will keep reminding people "please dont touch baby, he just recovered from covid and still recovering from the side effects. his lungs still weak, doctor advised us to not let people carry, touch, kiss him. so need to be very careful not to catch other virus or illness" (whether it is a lie or not, people need to hear something very serious for them to behave; especially if you pull in the "doctor's advice") most importantly, know that you are doing your best to protect your baby, whatever other people think or feel about you not letting them carry/touch your baby is their own immature emotional issues to deal with. you deal with caring for your baby, that is priority. if they are not happy then let them be unhappy. if they think you are unreasonable, let them think that way. you yourself know best that it is the right thing to do for your baby and yourself 🙏 the anxiety of my baby getting sick and nothing I can do to help ease the illness is more stressful than me being disliked by relatives.

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Em… I have this habit (for relative’s wedding where there are a lot of sangu liupo) of disappearing most of the time thru out the wedding and appearing when food is served to minimize interactions (I’m introverted and interactions stresses me). I mean, people would probably be too busy to noticed I’m missing right 😂. So when I attend wedding with baby, I will hear what time is food served, when is the march in, other than that, I will just push my stroller out of the venue and come back on time. But when I’m going in, I will carrier baby (to say baby want to sleep), then put her down in stroller when food is here 🤩. Family gatherings I will just say beforehand, do not kiss, even I don’t kiss baby, so don’t kiss her, thank you. If cannot listen (especially those who smoke and directly come near baby), I will just lock myself in the room with baby (if own house) or leave with baby☺️. You can say me all you want since I probably only see you once in like how many years? Not trying to be rude but obviously, my baby’s safety is way more important than caring about how you think 🥱.

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I will not attend the wedding. I will discuss with my husband especially if its his relative and make my stand as baby health is priority. With baby just recovered from covid and cases on the rise its still a risk as the baby immune system is still building up again.

I hear you!!!!! And I’m the same! CNY is coming and I’m so dread to even think about it! I have decided to be firm but with a smiley face, to behave in a seemingly impolite/unfriendly way when rejecting. My plan is to be an a** so ppl will stay away from us 🤣

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Haha! I think the most important is to get our husbands on board with the idea. I’m thinking of finding excuses like oh baby needs a diaper check/change, baby has stranger danger anxiety, baby needs to drink/eat, baby needs to nap to begin with. Good luck to the both of us!

I put my baby in carrier most of the time when I go to events... and make the visit short too..🤣I don't care... sometimes I lie and say my baby just sleep..don't want to wake her up...🤣🤣🤣 sometimes U just have to lie for own good

Haha maybe you can buy the covid mask shield for your baby. with the shield, your relatives want to kiss your baby also cant! 🤣🤣🤣 something like this perhaps: https://shp.ee/y6hzckl

My baby also going 3month old, maybe im not even attending cny gathering 🤣