Don’t feel bond with my newborn

I went thru emergency c-section and currently my husband takes care of our baby fully, with the help of my MIL too, while i recover. It’s been a week. My baby is on full FM. Is it normal that i don’t feel the bond with my baby? Even when i bottle feed him once in a while or hold him, i dont feel like he’s my baby. I feel like im just helping someone else’s baby. I don’t feel the “love” or connection with him. And when he cries, only my husband and MIL can settle him down. I tried doing skin to skin but baby cried. Plus i am not enjoying motherhood. Altho im not doing much as a “mother”. Im worried baby won’t know who’s his mother and would take it as im just a stranger, especially when he’s starting to recognise smell Anybody went thru the same ? #FTM #firstbaby

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One thing about post partum is that our husband want us to rest and heal then he and his family " help out " with taking care of the baby. No, i don't want my baby to be too close to his family. So i took care of my baby on my own and asked for help from my family if needed. I just want my baby to be close to her parents. I went through emergency c-cest too. Try not to focus too much on your wound. Just don't do or carry heavy items. Carrying baby is fine.

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