Is it stupid to divorce your husband because of your mil

I have been having issues with mil ever since I gave birth. The situation has not changed and my baby is 15 months. I just don’t feel my husband is supportive. My mil keeps telling everyone that she cares about me and wants to help. But if she wants to help, why would she say things like I walk away, baby smiles… then complain my maternity is 6 months so baby sticks to me. Also, once she has hold of baby, if baby finds me she will not pass him back. She acts victim and cries in front of the family saying don’t know why I don’t like her… I am so stressed by the whole situation. And anything to do with baby, she will say me. If baby has tummy pain, she will ask me what I eat cause I am breastfeeding. Baby don’t want to eat she will ask me what I cook… I feel like she is blaming me for everything. Baby makes a bit of noise she will ask me to pass to her.., I feel like I am such a lousy mum or what..: I am literally having depression.#advicepls #firsttimemom #firstbaby #helps

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Divorce might not be the best option. First try to have a calm conversation with your husband about your worries and be wary of not sounding like you are attacking his mother. Make your needs clear to him and your feelings about the situation. “I feel hurt by the comments because it makes me doubt my ability as a mother when I know I have been trying my best for our child” instead of “Your mother says this like I’m a bad mother”. Always kill with kindness unless there’s no other option. At the end of the day, your mental health and your baby’s wellbeing is most important but your husband is also key to this dynamic.

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Zafirah Edwards

Preggers

1y ago

Ok tht one really problem i sayyy really must set boundaries give her 2 days out of a week to pop by tell her tht u want privacy still but will give her time with the grandchildren

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