husband has many female friends, is that normal?

My husband has many female friends. Actually, I've been aware of this since we were dating before marriage. He's genuinely kind, so many girls feel comfortable being friends with him. Initially, I didn't mind and even found it cute. However, as we entered the third year of our marriage, I started feeling somewhat disturbed... especially when he went out to hang out with his friends and they didn't allow him to invite me. I have to admit, his friends aren't very friendly towards me. They barely greeted me on my birthday. I don't like it, and I want my husband to stop being friends with them... am I being overdramatic?

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Hi there, First of all i truly felt your worries are true. A married personal should limit their contact to opposite gender, regardless they call it “friends/step-sister/buddies). This allows their spouse feel emotionally secure. I would suggest that you could sit down and talk to your husband about how you feel, and how his “friends” treat you. Please don’t let him pursuit you that you’re “thinking too much”. Because if your already feeling it, means is real. You should ask your husband to set the boundaries. And make things clear between you and his “friends” in-order to continue down the marriage. If his genuinely “kind” please let him put it at home instead of outside. If his not willing to let go his “friendships”, then you need to think about other alternatives “ by law”. Personally, i won’t suggest anything too extreme unless my spouse committed with any “extra ordinary actions”. But i set my boundaries high, it has to be in order to maintain our marriage. Lastly, please take care of yourself, your wellbeing is very important.

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